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Multi-personality — Virtue not Disorder

  • May 13, 2021
  • 3 min read

Updated: May 14, 2021

Written by: Motti Wein, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

A number of months ago, I was involved in a real estate business deal where I felt I had to speak tough to the other party because I believed that he was dishonest. Later I doubted myself as perhaps he was not dishonest.

That evening I called an acquaintance with whom I have not spoken to in a while to catch up, and in passing, he told me, “Motti, you’re too nice. That’s your problem.”


Am I too tough or too nice?


Mordechai, the hero of the Purim story in ancient Persia, which Jews around the world celebrate annually around March-time, we are told knew 70 languages. While perhaps literal, it can also be interpreted as figurative in the sense of being able to relate to 70 different types of people.


Over the course of a lifetime, we interact with countless such different types, and it is crucial we know the correct way to interact with each. In business, this occurs over the course of a single day.


Some people are sensitive. Others laugh things off with ease.


Some people are stubborn. Others are quick to give in.


Some people pick things up easily. Others need more time learning.


Some people have to always be on their feet. Others have to be sitting at a desk to function to their fullest.


Perhaps what I find most satisfying about my line of work, and my life in general, is the number of personalities I must display at different times of the day.


My wife. My children, each on their own level. My brother. My co-workers, each on their own level. My supervisors. Those who work under me, each on their own level. The government, on a local level. The government, on a state level. The government, on a federal level. The rabbis I go to for guidance. My neighbors, each on their own level. My business partners in kosher supervision, each on their own level. My business partners in real estate, each on their own level. Those I disburse charity to, each on their own level. My doctors, each on their own level. The media. Children my children play with, each on their own level. My study partner.


The list is endless.


May we all merit to likewise know 70 languages and converse with each person we come across in their own language.


As can be seen, one does not need to go to school for this.


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Motti Wein, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Founded in 2015 by Motti Wein, we don't view honesty as the best policy; rather, we view it as the foundation for all policies. Let us use our cumulative decades of experience in overcoming adversary, leadership, trust, real estate, customer service, business acumen, family values, and our good name to help you manage and grow your NJ real estate investment portfolio. We may be reached at 732-415-8446 or emailed at WeinRealtyLLC@gmail.com. Wein Holdings, Wein Consulting, Wein Management, and Wein Lending are Wein Realty, LLC divisions. Please note we are a proud member of "Mem Dalet" - an initiative to encourage traditional Jewish workplace values in an ever-increasing nationwide culture of harassment & assault against women and general hostility towards religion. For more information, please contact us. Regarding Mr. Wein's work in kosher supervision, please email Wein.ChaimM@gmail.com or MWein@JewishHomeFreehold.org.

 
 

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