Is Your Comfort Zone Truly Yours?
Written by: Ewa Adams, Executive Contributor
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Back in the spring of this year, I spotted a lovely miniature orange plant at the local supermarket.
It was green with a few flowers in full bloom and tiny oranges, its zest wasn’t orange yet but almost there. I couldn’t resist it and this way I became a proud owner of the orange plant.
I’ve carefully read the attached tag on how to care for my precious plant and earnestly for weeks following the instructions.
Don’t worry, this isn’t a plant care manual. There is a point.
I was a bit disappointed that the plant, my plant wasn’t growing as it should according to the instruction. Furthermore, it looked like it wasn’t happy with the care provided even though it was supposed to be its “ideal climate”, its comfort zone.
In an act of desperation, I moved the plant outside the house and left it in the middle of my windy garden. It’s important to mention that I live in Ireland and even in the summer temperature is around 20 degrees and it rains quite a lot.
Imagine my surprise when after just a few days, my plant looked like I have given it a new life, a better life, more natural so to say. It started growing and giving fruits! I couldn’t believe it.
It inspired me to think of the “ideal climate” in our life, our comfort zone.
How many of us stop for a moment and think if what we do or think is OURS, and not something that has been suppressed on us (gently or not) through the way we were raised or by our society, and all the sudden it became our second skin?
When you take a deep breath and decide to dig in your memory, you can realise that your life, decisions you made, promises you kept are far from truly you. That something that you took for your comfort zone is in reality only a shell that you’ve been pushed to by your parents, teachers, and pseudo friends who “know better”.
Living beings adapt to their environment and so did you. You adapted to take others’ opinions for your own.
Now when you scroll through social media and get hit by another sponsored training to fulfill your dreams and find your full potential, you think sometimes that yes, maybe this could be for you. A new challenge, a new chance. But then you enter your home or your workplace and you are straight away drawn in tones of questions, messages, emails, to-do lists, etc. And again, you leave your “want to change” for another day.
You accept that where you are in, is your choice, your comfort zone and there’s nothing wrong in feeling comfortable and not needing or not wanting any change. And only sometimes, when you think too much, you feel like this life wasn’t set up by yourself, that even as an adult you feel like a child that needs to please others. And it feels weird only sometimes when you allow yourself to have the one-on-one moment with yourself. No one can write an instruction on how to make you “grow”, just like my plant, your true path and passion might be in a place that only you have a key to.
Don’t forget about yourself. Bloom!
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Ewa Adams, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Ewa Adams is a professional coach and business improvement specialist, proud founder of Your Everest Coaching. Over the past 15 years, with successes, she gained hands-on experience in business management, recruitment, and team building. Coaching and Lean are her two passions, and she combines them to find the best solution when working with her clients on their personal or professional goals. She believes in holistic approach in coaching, while she looks at all aspects of her clients’ life. This way she can support her clients by identifying areas for improvement, eliminating unproductive habits and limiting beliefs. Ewa supports her clients and leads them to a re-designed harmonious life and profitable business.
