How To Find You
Updated: Mar 29, 2022
Written by: Nikki Cornfield, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
It’s not easy being the captain of your own boat. Often, it’s easier to hand over the wheel to someone else, sit back and let them plot the destination. But then there is a danger of falling asleep and arriving at the wrong destination.
So how do you find you?
When the shit hits the fan or the storm threatens to capsize you, what do you do? Do you look for others to blame for the situation you find yourself or do you take ownership and paddle your way right through it and out the other side?
So how do you find you?
When the opinions of others seem greater than your own. When it matters that others are happy before you find your own joy. It’s important to put your own oxygen mask on before helping others. If you pass out in the aisle you block the way for others to get out.
So how do you find you?
When you’re feeling lonely and alone? When you need others, but they can’t be found.
It’s a time when turning inwards you find calm, no one else can hear what you feel in there, it’s your peaceful place to enjoy at any time.
So how do you find you?
When do you feel pulled out of alignment by the chaos and turmoil in the world? When you feel like the stimulation of modern-day living is just too much for the human soul to bare.
Like animals in nature, we too need to stop, rest, sleep, and recharge.
So how do you find you?
When you think you are losing your mind. When the monkey mind overtakes your consciousness, you lose touch with the higher self who knows you best.
Remember you are not your thoughts; they are not who you are. Acknowledge them and let them go. Imagine them as bubbles inside; they need to surface to pop so don’t suppress them, they only get bigger problems.
So how do you find you?
When you find yourself in a relationship that isn’t serving you. A relationship that is not lifting you up but dragging you down. A relationship where you can’t be who you are and is past its sell-by date.
You say thank you for the time you’ve shared, believe you are worthy of being seen, valued, and loved greater than you are and gracefully move on.
So how do you find you?
When your identity lies in the hands of someone else, something else and you are confused about who you are.
It’s easy to acquire hats, swap and change them as the mood takes you, but if the hats get taken away, are you naked without them? We get so caught up in the roles we play, the labels that society identifies us that it becomes what do we do instead of who do we want to be in the world. Forget them all none of them are you. You are you and there is only one of you in the world.
So how do you find you?
When you feel depressed, sad, low like the candle is flickering and not lighting the way. When the path ahead isn’t clear. When there are decisions to be made but they are just too difficult to contemplate. When the mountain in front of you feels just too big to climb.
Remember that you are bigger than your physical self, that you are part of a greater picture that always wants the best thing for you. The universe has your back, you are never alone. Sometimes it feels too hard to reach inside and find that spark, that reason for living. But there are always better things ahead.
A reason for moving forward becomes clearer by taking just one small step forward. Have hope that you are loved unconditionally by everyone. We are all connected at a deeper level
You find you when you move to that place inside of knowing you are loved you find you, the place where the soul resides.
Nikki Cornfield, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Nikki Cornfield is passionate about inspiring and empowering modern women to create a life by design- supporting them to find natural health and vitality, financial independence and be authentically who they are in the world. As an empath and intuitive she is naturally drawn to help others and uses these gifts to guide others through her coaching and writing. After a diagnosis of Coeliac disease in her early twenties, she turned away from the medical system to find her own answers. Aware of being guided along a path of spiritual awakening and with a strong sense of 'knowing' she was drawn to study natural ancient healing methods, certifying as a reflexologist, Iridologist and meditation and yoga teacher as she travelled around the world in search of answers, and which ultimately led to her own healing journey. She has dedicated her life to inspiring others through her own wisdom and experiences and shares her journey in her memoir due to be published in 2022.
