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Dating Beyond Surface Gives Asexual/Demisexual & Sapiosexual Readers a Long-Overdue Self-Help Guide

  • Mar 17
  • 2 min read

Yujia Zhu, Ph.D., has released Dating Beyond Surface: A Self-Help Book for Demisexuality and Sapiosexuality in Modern Romance, now available on Amazon. Published for readers who do not experience attraction through conventional dating timelines, the book explores how asexuality/demisexuality, sapiosexuality, emotional pacing, and intellectual connection shape modern relationships. Through reflective guidance and practical tools, Zhu offers an affirming framework for people seeking connection that feels emotionally honest, safe, and deeply aligned.


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Dating beyond surface


In a dating culture that often emphasizes instant chemistry and quick escalation, Dating Beyond Surface offers another perspective, one that validates slower, deeper forms of attraction.


“This is not a book about how to fix yourself to ‘succeed’ at dating,” said Zhu. “It’s a book about expanding your definition of connection so it includes you, exactly as you are.”


Designed as a practical self-help resource, the book includes journaling prompts, reflection exercises, communication scripts, and dating profile templates tailored for people who connect emotionally or intellectually before physically.


“If you’ve ever felt like your pace was too slow, your needs were too complex, or your kind of love was too quiet to be seen, this book is for you,” Zhu added. “You are not broken. You simply love with depth. And depth is not a liability, it’s a superpower.”


Dating Beyond Surface: A Self-Help Book for Demisexuality and Sapiosexuality in Modern Romance is available now on Amazon.


About the author


Dr. Yujia Zhu 朱羽佳 (Ph.D. in Psychology) is a visionary changemaker and the trailblazing founder of For A Safer Space (FASS), the world’s first fully AI-driven nonprofit organization, and the solo creator of the FASSLING AI product line, the world’s first fully AI-driven nonprofit platform with a virtual safe space providing unlimited, free emotional and life coaching services globally.


A proud Chinese Canadian originally from the historic city of Nanjing, Mainland China, Yujia’s journey fuses technical innovation with compassionate activism, offering a bold blueprint for the future of socially responsible leadership.


With almost 15 years of experience in the humanitarian sector, Yujia is widely recognized as a bold social innovator, ethical systems thinker, and fearless advocate for restorative justice and inclusive service design. Her work has impacted millions through anti-oppressive storytelling, transformative holistic education, and visionary platforms that reimagine human care in the digital age. Yujia’s work has earned her recognition as a thought leader in the nonprofit and philanthropy sector, including her appointment to the Forbes Nonprofit Council and her service on the board of Community Boards, the longest-running mediation, conflict resolution, and restorative justice center in the United States.


She has also earned recognition as an established science-based thought leader in the coaching sector when she was invited to join the most prestigious professional fellowship at the Institute of Coaching (IOC), based at McLean Hospital, a member of Mass General Brigham and the largest psychiatric affiliate of Harvard Medical School. Dr. Yujia Zhu also won the prestigious Grand Stevie Award for Women in Business and is a 13x Stevie Award winner. A rare blend of heart, intellect, and courage, Dr. Yujia Zhu exemplifies what it means to lead with both purpose and precision. Her life’s work is dedicated to building a more compassionate, equitable, and sustainable world, one bold, effective innovation at a time.


Media contact


Dr. Yujia Zhu’s LinkedIn.

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