Written by: Clarissa Kristjansson, Executive Contributor
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Do you ever get stuck or stumble over your words when someone asks you what you want to do when you retire? Yeah. Me too, partly because I’m not planning to retire in the traditional sense. After years of putting everyone else’s needs before mine, it was tough for me to focus on what I wanted. Especially when I had been busy just doing life.
How was I supposed to reinvent myself in midlife if I don’t even know who I wanted to be or what my passions were? I knew I wanted to be happy and to have purpose, but I wasn’t not sure what that looked like.
Social media feeds make it look easy, don’t they? The whole concept of manifestation. Envisioning and affirming the life you want and then poof, it magically comes to be. But you and I know there are a lot more steps in between that they aren’t telling us, right? Like say, work? We haven’t got to this point in our lives without realizing that you have to work for what you want. Sure, some things come easier to some than others, but all in all, we all must put one foot in front of the other to propel ourselves forward. I have no problem with work. It is a direction that I seem to lack.
I did know that I had a strong feeling that the life I was living right at this moment wasn’t me. A little part of me, but most of me wanted more than existing in that time in between work, life and death. I wanted to embrace my post-menopausal years with zest as I shed responsibilities to others and blossom into a life fulfilling my soul purpose.
So how do you pivot yourself in midlife? Especially when you don’t have a clue what to do. It all starts with eliminating what you don’t want, thereby allowing what ultimately makes you happy, come to the surface.
The following steps helped me, and maybe they can help guide you through that process of uncovering how or where to reinvent yourself.
1. Declutter and Clean Your Home and Mind.
For most people, and I’m one of them, it’s impossible to think in a messy or chaotic environment. After living in the same home for a decade, I had surrounded myself with a lot of stuff. And not necessarily stuff I liked or needed anymore.
The process of decluttering and cleaning allows you the time and mind space to weed out those things that no longer serve you and make decisions about what brings you joy. It’s a process. As you go through and consciously decide what stays and what goes, you are not just cleaning your physical space, but also help your mind prepare for the process of reinventing yourself.
2. Evaluate Your Relationships.