3 Simple Ways to Shift From Tensing Up to Softening
- May 13
- 3 min read
Arianne Ortiz is known for her Intuitive Healing and Ayurvedic work. She is the founder of The Art of Healing, a holistic wellness company dedicated to guiding and supporting others in strengthening the mind-body connection, deepening spiritual healing, and releasing the blocks that prevent them from living their fullest, most radiant life.
Stress is an overwhelming feeling we all face, yet many of us have become so accustomed to it that we no longer recognize it for what it is. Our bodies are constantly giving us signals, asking us to pause, recalibrate, and shift our energy, yet we often move right past them.
This isn’t a personal failure. For many of us, stress responses are deeply conditioned through childhood experiences, relationships, societal pressure, or traumatic events. While the source may differ, it often lands in the same place, the nervous system. Just as your fingerprint is unique, so is your body’s blueprint.
You may be thinking, “If it were this simple, I would have done it already.” To a degree, you’re right. The challenge isn’t in the tools themselves. The challenge is your willingness to commit to awareness, to show up consistently, and to meet yourself with honesty and presence.
The beautiful part is that the actual practice of shifting can be simple. It begins with giving yourself permission to soften.
Shift 1: Be completely honest with yourself (without judgment)
This sounds simple, and it is, but only if you’re ready for it. When something someone says triggers you, pause and ask yourself, “Why did that activate something in me?”
The answer may not come immediately, and that’s okay. Stay open. Yes, people can say hurtful things. This isn’t about dismissing that. But often, what flows out of others has far more to do with their own pain than it does with you. Sometimes, your presence simply reflects back something they’re not ready to face.
When we shift our awareness in this way, we stop reacting from dysregulation and begin responding from groundedness.
Shift 2: Choose your resets, and actually use them
Resets are tools that help shift your nervous system from fight, flight, or freeze into safety and softening. They’re simple, powerful, and accessible anywhere.
Sometimes the most powerful reset is simply removing yourself from the triggering environment, even for a few moments. Walking away creates space for your nervous system to recalibrate.
Practices like EFT or TFT tapping can also help regulate the body’s stress response. Gently tapping on pressure points such as the collarbone, under the eyes, or the side of the hand while repeating phrases like, “I am safe in this space. I am safe being heard,” can help reconnect the mind and body to a sense of safety. You can also create your own affirmation beginning with, “I am safe”
Visualization is another grounding tool. Close your eyes and imagine a warm golden bubble surrounding your body. Feel your feet rooted deeply into the earth, anchoring you. The golden light offers protection. The earth offers steadiness. You are grounded, supported, and safe.
Shift 3: Remember that supportive tools don’t replace boundaries
These practices are here to support your nervous system through everyday stress and overwhelm. They are not meant to keep you in unsafe situations.
If you are in danger, your first priority is always getting to safety. These resets are designed to complement healthy boundaries, not override them.
Life will always bring challenges. The goal isn’t to avoid difficulty. The goal is to move through it with more awareness, regulation, and grace.
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Arianne Ortiz, Ayurvedic Specialist and Intuitive Healer Expert
Arianne Ortiz is a specialist in Intuitive Healing and Ayurvedic Medicine. Her experiences in childhood and early adulthood inspired a deep personal healing journey that awakened her soul’s purpose—to guide others on their spiritual, emotional, and physical paths to wholeness. She has devoted her life to educating, supporting, and empowering others to ignite their inner radiance and live unapologetically authentic lives, blending ancient wisdom with modern living.
