Why You’re Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Partners
- Brainz Magazine
- May 2
- 5 min read
Beatrice is a multi-award-winning Therapist, Hypnotherapist, CBT Therapist, Trainer, and Author! Beatrice has experience in working with people from all over the world. She is passionate about helping people transform their lives, heal, and manifest their ideal relationships.
One of the reasons why you are attracted to Men/Women who are unavailable or emotionally unavailable would be because the person you love is one of your parents reflected in your exterior, the one you did not heal the relationship with.
Another reason would be because this is how you’ve been treated as a child, maybe you tried to work for the love of your parents, maybe they were very busy working, or they just didn’t really showed you attention, because that’s how they been raised and they didn’t know any better.
But you tried to work hard to get their love and attention!
And now you are finding yourself being attracted to people who would give you crumbs of love!
And you accept it because you are very thirsty, and it is totally understandable.
I am not telling you this to criticise you!
I am telling you this to open your eyes because I care about you!
The Person you love is you reflected in the Exterior!
Now you are probably wondering what I mean by that?
Is your interior reflected in the Exterior?
A child who has always fought for love, attention, care, but he didn’t really get it, they will believe that they are not important, that they don’t matter, no matter what they do!
Now in their Relationships, they try to give everything and leave themselves without anything, deep down believing that they will get love, attention, and so on.
The problem is that it doesn’t work in a Relationship for too long!
It only takes one day for your Specific Person to not reply to your messages, and then you will start rolling all of these ideas that they might be with someone else, or they will leave you, or they get bored with you, and so on.
What happens after you keep having these inner conversations??
After a while, it will reflect in your Reality! They will start rejecting you, talking to other Women or Men, might compare you, or even verbalize that they don’t want to be with you anymore!
I know it’s painful, but let me explain to you why it could happen.
You’ve been manifesting them for them to do that without even knowing!
How?
Through telepathy, you’ve been sending them your thoughts, and they believe they are their thoughts, and they do it!
So, how can you get a person to love you and truly choose you?
By working on your self-concept and changing it!
Now, what you identify yourself with is that you are second place, and you will always be. This is what you believe, and then you keep manifesting people who will not choose you and put you in second place!
You manifest in your reality the assumptions that you have about yourself, as well as the assumptions that you have about men and women!
So if your assumptions about yourself is that you are not chosen, loved, that you are not beautiful, attractive enough, that you are not good enough, then you Manifest in your Reality people who will put you on the second place, people who will not choose you, who betray you, disrespect you because this is what you believe about yourself deep down at an unconscious level!
If you don’t give yourself value, that cannot be pushed out in your reality.
So people will not be able to see your value, and that’s why you are treated the way you are treated!
You also manifest what you think about Him/Her.
So if your assumptions are that they are only players, liars, they are not choosing you, they are not committed to you, then this is what you manifest in your Reality, people who are doing this, because these are your Convictions about them.
An Assumption, even if it’s False, if you Persist in it, will Become Real!
So you need to change your assumptions that you have about yourself at an unconscious level. It’s very hard to find your unconscious beliefs by yourself, so I would recommend that you work with a Specialist who is very good at that.
If you have questions, you can message me on Social Media.
You need To Change your self-concept completely and leave behind the person you were!
You need to reactivate that inner Confidence that you were born with!
Every single baby that was born in the world knew they were super important. They knew they deserved to be loved. Until something has happened to you and installed different programs in your mind, like:
I am not lovable, I don’t matter, I am not chosen, I am not worthy, I don’t deserve love, I am always compared, which means I am not good enough, pretty enough, beautiful enough, and so on.
Why would a child gonna believe that?
Because when you are a child, you are not able to think like an adult and understand that maybe your parents had their difficulties, that wasn’t about you!
That child will believe it's their fault!
And they go through life with these beliefs!
What happens is that the Universe will send them people who will match their beliefs about them!
That’s why it's so important to change your beliefs about yourself at an Unconscious level!
When you get to change in your Mind, Life will reflect you, and your reality is going to reshape!
When you truly see yourself as loveable, important, chosen, knowing you matter, valuable, good enough, and beautiful enough, then life will reflect you, and your life will change in the most amazing way!
Because your life will be reshaped and reflect what you have inside!
You will be able to manifest your dream Partner, your dream Career, More money, Better Health, career opportunities, and so on!
If you cannot do it by yourself, you can apply for the Transformation Academy to see if you qualify and if we are a good fit to work together.
You can also send me a message on any of the platforms on social Media, and I will be happy to answer any questions you may have!
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Beatrice Zamfir, Transformational Therapist, Hypnotherapist, Author
Beatrice is an expert in helping people who have been through toxic relationships. She is dedicated to her career, where she is learning different methods that will help people change their lives for the better!, Heal, and manifest the person they love back or a new relationship!
