Why I Chose To Forgive
Written by: Dr. Dusya Lyubovskaya, Executive Contributor
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When people think about forgiveness, they think of religious institutions talking about how
important it is to forgive the people who hurt you. What they hear is, "I have to forgive that
person because the Bible, thorah… says so."
When I tell people that I have forgiven my narcissistic father after sharing my story of being
abused, they either look at me like I am crazy or assume that I am part of a religion.
The truth is, I have forgiven him for my own sake.
In my healing journey, I learned that not forgiving him gives him power over me, makes me a
victim, which affects me in a way that I don’t believe in myself.
Before my healing journey in 2014, I would think of him (he passed away in 2007), and my
thought process was, “how could he do this to me?!“ I looked at myself as a victim as
opposed to a survivor and did not see how I could possibly have a life of my own, although he
had passed on. I kept saying to myself, "He is dead. He can’t hurt you anymore", but it didn’t
help me.
I did start a life, and I was taking care of my mother, who passed away in 2014, had a good job, and started College. However, I had difficulties mentally and emotionally starting a new life.
Then in 2014, shortly after my mother's passing, I had a wake-up call (if you will). I met people
who did energy healing and intuitive work, and I felt welcome and understood?
After I started my healing journey, I learned later on about ancestral healing.
Ancestral healing helps with reconciliation, whether with family members or people generally in your life.
When I learned about ancestral healing and forgiving my father, I thought, “This is crazy! He
abused me, and I am supposed to forgive him?!”
But during the session, I realized that it is not about forgiving him because of what he did. It is
about forgiving him by saying that I accept what happened and want to move on because I am strong and have my own life and will not allow his actions to sabotage my success in life.
Now it is 2021, and I am successfully completing my courses in undergrad, got my Ph.D. in
metaphysics and helping people successfully who are struggling with trauma.
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Dr. Dusya Lyubovskaya, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Dr. Dusya Lyubovskaya is a leader of ancient holistic modalities. After growing up with an abusive father, her trauma caused her to develop health issues that doctors could clear diagnose. Although Dusya has been passionate about science since her youth, she went into the medical field because she had to be the breadwinner at an early age but never gave up her dream of going into science. During her work taking care of patients, she realized there was more than western medicine could offer. However, she felt she was running into walls. Dusya took care of both of her parents, who died from terminal cancer, and knew that she could at least ease their suffering with the holistic modalities she learned about growing up. After her mother’s passing in 2014, she discovered meditation and Reiki, and a brand new world opened to her full of opportunities! She got trained in reiki, and after a year, she was encouraged by many clients to get paid because she appeared to be very talented.
She would perform energy healing on and off on the side, and in 2018 with additional training, became a holistic life as her clients around the world greatly appreciated her positive energy and experience. Dusya has also evolved in her medical career and started speaking for health care agencies as well as government agencies seeking her advice and expertise. Dusya discovered that many chronic health issues in her clients were caused by trauma so she used her western medicine knowing combined with ancient healing modalities and has been very successful. Meanwhile, Dusya has expanded to helping entrepreneurs who struggle to make more than 5k by helping them increase their money mindset and helping them get unstuck by helping them with inner child soul retrieval and helping them reconnect with their inner child as every issue we face as adults is affected by what we learned as children.
