The Dangerous Leadership Habit You Don’t Realize You’re Doing
Updated: Sep 23
Mildred Hill, widely known as "The Fry Girl," leverages over two decades of high-pressure experience from the kitchen to the boardroom to deliver a unique approach to financial and operational consulting. Through Mildred Hill Consulting, she helps business leaders identify hidden blind spots, master nervous system self-regulation, and make high-ROI decisions for sustainable growth.
Do you ever find yourself explaining away why a team member missed another deadline, or why a critical conversation needs to wait until next week? You are not alone. One of the most damaging habits a leader can develop isn't obvious, doesn't look like dishonesty, and often sounds entirely reasonable: justification. Justification happens when we use explanations, excuses, rationalizations, emotions, or skewed information to reach the conclusion we want rather than the conclusion the facts tell us we need to reach. In this article, you will learn how justification creates blind spots, the true cost of delaying hard decisions, and practical ways to move from making excuses to leading from reality.
What is justification in leadership?
Justification is the process of using explanations and rationalizations to make almost anything sound reasonable. Leaders often justify why someone didn't follow through, why the timing isn't right, or why a standard should be different this time. The danger of justification is that it shifts leadership away from reality and toward a story created simply to make reality more comfortable. Leaders do not get to choose the facts. Effective leadership requires a willingness to look at information, whether from numbers, behavior, patterns, or feedback, even when it leads somewhere uncomfortable.
The frustration of justifying other people's behavior
When team members repeatedly miss deadlines or engage in behaviors that negatively impact the team, leaders often jump in to explain the circumstances surrounding the behavior. Over time, repeated empathy and second chances can curdle into resentment. Leaders become frustrated carrying burdens that others should carry, leading to a crucial question: Did they fail us, or did we fail to hold them accountable? Protecting people from the consequences of their actions isn't kindness. At some point, leadership requires stopping the explanations and addressing the behavior directly.
How we justify ourselves
Self-justification is often the hardest form of rationalization to recognize. Phrases like "I didn't have time," "I needed more information," or "I was waiting for the right time" often mask the reality that taking action right now is uncomfortable. Postponing tough conversations, decisions, and accountability creates a convenient story to justify delay.
The cost of "later"
"Later" is one of the most expensive words in leadership. When "later" becomes a pattern, small corrections spiral into significantly larger organizational problems:
Uncomfortable conversations escalate into formal performance issues.
Missed opportunities result in lost revenue.
Process breakdowns turn into operational chaos.
Tolerated behaviors become the default culture.
Issues addressed immediately rarely become easier by waiting.
Data should inform the decision, not serve it
Good leadership does not mean ignoring emotion, fear, loyalty, or frustration, but those factors should not be the ultimate decision-makers. Leaders must evaluate whether they are using data to make a decision or using data to justify a decision. Making a decision seeks the truth, whereas justifying a decision merely seeks permission to support a preconceived conclusion.
Recognizing your own blind spots
To eliminate justification, leaders must turn the lens inward and ask tough self-reflection questions:
Where am I making excuses?
Where am I protecting someone from accountability?
Where am I allowing emotion to outweigh evidence?
Where am I changing the standard because enforcing it is uncomfortable?
Where am I delaying something that needs to happen now?
What am I currently explaining away that I already know needs addressing?
Start leading from reality today
Overcoming justification doesn't mean eliminating grace, becoming rigid, or ignoring circumstances. It means refusing to confuse understanding with justification. Understanding asks, "What happened, and what do we need to learn from it?" while justification asks, "What can I say so we don't have to deal with it?"
If you are ready to stop making excuses and lead with clarity and accountability, let's find your opportunity to align your leadership practices with real, impactful outcomes.
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Mildred M Hill, Speaker & Business Consultant
Mildred Hill, affectionately known as The Fry Girl, is the founder of Mildred Hill Consulting and a specialist in self-regulation. Her journey began at the fryer, where she learned that the key to success isn't just a great product, it’s the ability to remain steady under heat. Today, she teaches leaders that self-regulation is the foundation of every growth strategy, helping them move from reactive stress to decisive leadership. By sharing her story plainly, The Fry Girl provides a relatable yet high-impact roadmap for anyone ready to master themselves in both business and life.
