It Almost Always Stems Back To "I am Not Worthy” Or Your Lack Of Self-Worth
- May 25, 2022
- 5 min read
Updated: May 26, 2022
Written by: Louise Siwicki, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
It almost always stems back to "I am not worthy” or your lack of self-worth.
What does this mean exactly?
What is the “IT” I am referring to?
Let me explain…
Have you ever stopped to think about how you really view yourself?
If you were to look at yourself in the mirror, what would you see? What would you say to yourself about you?
You've probably not actually ever really stopped to think about how you truly see yourself and how these views could be affecting your reality – am I right?
Well, that is because your opinion of yourself and what you deserve (self-worth) is formulated at the unconscious level at a very young age. This view of you is then solidified throughout the course of your life through different events, by the people you surround yourself with and your perception of the world.
At least 99% of the population have issues around low self-worth to some extent. How this presents varies from person to person. You will create many limiting beliefs in your mind around what you believe your self-worth to be. This in turn creates blocks in life. It will block your ability to succeed in a personal or professional sense, to truly find happiness.
I am not worthy of making money
I am not worthy of love
I am not worthy of success
I am not worthy of happiness
I am not worthy unless I look a certain way
I am not worthy of conceiving a child or carrying a child to full term
Do any of these resonate with you?
Most of the time you actually have no idea about this programming. It’s not until you start to feel stuck in life, unhappy or perhaps find yourself in a terrible relationship, a horrible workplace or it could present as physical issues in the body such a disease or illness.
I specialise in working with clients suffering infertility issues and this limiting belief is one of the major factors affecting most of my clients if not all. It is a massive issue in our society and a lot of people consciously are not even aware of it.
It takes a life crisis for someone to stop and start to unpack what is really happening. Once you can reprogram these negative emotions at the unconscious level then and only then can you truly find the happiness and health you so desperately desire.
What is Self-worth?
Self-worth is the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others. People with high self-worth tend to have higher respect, confidence, and values. People with low self-worth might suffer from low confidence and feel bad about themselves
Self-esteem is often confused with self-worth
Self-esteem is often used interchangeably with self-worth; however, self-esteem can be defined as “feeling” good and confident about oneself.
The big difference here is that self-esteem is often a fleeting feeling—it can be raised through external factors like receiving nice compliments or buying a new pair of shoes.
But self-esteem doesn’t last.
Think of it like this: self-esteem is like a floating cloud in the sky. It can come and go—and it most certainly will — and people with high self-esteem might need constant mood boosters to “feel” good about themselves.
But true self-worth is more than that. It’s the permanent, grounded “knowing” that you have worth. And unlike a cloud, self-worth is more like the earth. It’s an unmovable, grounded belief that is “rooted” in confidence — and a snide remark or unfortunate circumstance won’t completely destroy your self-worth.
So how can I increase my self-worth?
To truly get to the bottom of why you have low self-worth in the first place will require you to unpack what has been going on unconsciously change that programming into a positive Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy are amazing modalities to create this change. I work with both daily and the change that I see in my clients in a relatively short period of time is unbelievable.
However, there are some simple exercises you can also do in your own time to start the process as well.
Write down three things your love about yourself.
Three things that you have achieved in life you are proud of.
Think of a time in your life when you were truly happy. You laughed so hard your whole body shook. How did you feel in that moment? Truly feel that feeling of happiness within yourself.
Now look at yourself in the mirror and note down your feelings.
What do you see, feel and think about yourself?
Chances are you have a lot of negative thoughts and judgements about yourself, am I right?
I challenge you for a week to recognise every time you have a negative thought about yourself and consciously swap this negative thought for a positive one.
Did you know it is impossible for your mind to think of a negative and positive thought at the same time?
By consciously reframing your thoughts to positive ones you will automatically stop the negative thought in its tracks!
It won’t be easy in the beginning because chances are you have a lot of negative thoughts about yourself however as times goes on it gets easier and easier. If you keep at this, you will eventually find your negative thoughts start to disappear completely. You are reprograming your thought process at the unconscious level.
Your thoughts become feelings...
Feelings become beliefs...
And your beliefs become your reality...
Think how your negative thoughts could be affecting your reality, the position you find yourself in today.
How has your perception of your self-worth created the issues you are currently battling today?
Louise Siwicki, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Louise Siwicki, is a specialist in the fields of Neuro Linguistic Programming, Time Line Therapy®, Hypnotherapy and a Fertility Coaching expert. She offers specialised programs for both woman and men suffering infertility issues, through pregnancy and early parenthood.
She uses different practical processes and techniques to rewire the brain of her clients and build new neural pathways. This eliminates and heals the root cause of stress and anxiety, the negative emotions and limiting beliefs holding them back from achieving the success and happiness they desire in life.
After suffering though 6 years of infertility issues herself she has since dedicated her life to supporting woman and men through this very challenging time in their lives. She is the founder and CEO of “Louise Siwicki Coaching”, author of ""The Secret to Getting Pregnant is not Just in Your Body but in Your Mind"" and a public speaker.
Her mission: To help everyone understand the importance of the mind, body connection. If you don’t master your mind, your mind will master you.
