Ego vs. Soul and Understanding the Inner Battle in Relationships
- Brainz Magazine
- May 16
- 3 min read
Written by Dr. Sunil Prakash, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Trainer of Clinical Hypnotherapy
Dr. Sunil Prakash is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Trainer. He is CEO of the California Hypnosis Institute Gurgaon, an online and offline learning platform. An author of The Mental Vault, and a presenter at various international conventions and meets.
In our daily interactions, we often find ourselves caught in an inner struggle between the ego and the soul. This conflict profoundly influences how we relate to others, shaping our connections with parents, partners, friends, and even our children.
The ego tends to assert itself loudly, proclaiming, “I am right.” It thrives on justification and self-importance, often seeking to emerge victorious in discussions or disputes. In contrast, the soul gently whispers, “Let’s understand each other.” Where the ego creates gaps and distances between people, the soul fosters closeness and empathy.
In every relationship, the ego's primary goal is to win arguments, demonstrate superiority, or protect its own image. It enters conversations with a defensive mindset, pondering, “Why should I be the one to apologize first?” It feels slighted and may choose silence as a form of punishment, believing that by withholding communication, it maintains control or asserts its worth.
On the other hand, the soul recognizes that relationships are not about conquest but rather the journey of growth and mutual support.
The ego reacts impulsively, often leading to escalated conflicts. The soul, however, responds thoughtfully, considering the broader implications of its words and actions.
While the ego clings to grudges and past offenses, the soul embraces forgiveness, understanding that it is essential for personal and relational healing. The ego experiences a fear of rejection, believing that vulnerability will lead to pain, whereas the soul seeks only love and connection, understanding that true intimacy requires openness and courage.
This dynamic means that even small disputes can spiral into significant dramas. When one ego confronts another, misunderstandings and accusations can overshadow love and compassion. However, when two souls engage, there is an opportunity for genuine connection and peace to flourish.
So, what is the solution to this inner conflict?
Pause and breathe: Before reacting in the heat of the moment, take a moment to breathe deeply. Reflect on whether your response is coming from a place of ego or soul. This simple practice can create a space for more thoughtful engagement.
Practice humility: Understanding that saying “I’m sorry” does not diminish your worth but instead signifies the strength of your soul can be transformative. It shows emotional intelligence and a willingness to prioritize the relationship over personal pride.
Listen more, speak less: The ego craves the spotlight, wanting to be heard and validated. In contrast, the soul embraces the power of active listening. By prioritizing understanding and empathy in conversations, we open the door to deeper connections.
Meditate daily: Taking just ten minutes each day for meditation can lead to profound shifts in awareness. This practice can help you transition from an ego-centered perspective to a soul-centered mindset, enhancing clarity and reducing reactive tendencies.
Send blessings to those you’re upset with: It might sound counterintuitive, but sending positive thoughts and blessings to individuals who trigger your ego can transform the energy dynamics between you. This act of goodwill softens your heart and fosters healing rather than conflict.
Relationships act as mirrors, reflecting back to us the areas where our ego still exerts control. Each disagreement or misunderstanding presents an opportunity for spiritual growth and deep self-reflection. Instead of viewing conflict as a setback, we can reframe it as a stepping stone on our path toward greater understanding and connection.
Let us consciously choose the soul time and again, especially when the ego is clamoring for attention and validation. By living from a place of soul awareness, we step into a realm where we no longer feel the need to fix or change others. Instead, we embark on the journey of self-healing, where our personal growth naturally enhances and blossoms our relationships. In doing so, we create a loving atmosphere where everyone involved can thrive.
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Dr. Sunil Prakash, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Trainer of Clinical Hypnotherapy
In 2008, Dr Sunil Prakash had a life-changing encounter while attending a Psychotherapy conference in the USA. He met a Clinical Hypnotherapist who introduced him to the remarkable effectiveness of Hypnotherapy as a healing modality. Inspired by this newfound knowledge he determined to pursue his passion for healing and teaching, Dr Sunil Prakash spent little time completing his Hypnotherapist course and Trainer's program from CHI USA. Within a year, he started his hypnotherapy academy. Since 2009 he has been successfully running the California Hypnosis Institute Gurgaon in India, where he practices and teaches Clinical Hypnotherapy.
