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Why Going For What You Want Feels So Scary

Feb 3, 2022
2 min read

Written by: Jesi Carroll, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

I remember this time last year I hired a coach and then THE next day tried to back out.


I felt so much fear around questioning if I made the right decision. I felt like maybe I didn’t need to move so quickly and maybe I was acting too much on impulse.


This coach got on a call with me and told me a singular piece of advice that would forever change me.

They first said I want you to understand that all of your fears are valid. But why it feels so scary to just feel SAFE to go for something you deep down know you want is because:


“When you make powerful, BIG decisions, you are tapping into the energy of your future self. Right now it feels scary because you aren’t fully aligned to it yet. It IS you but it’s your NEXT LEVEL you so it feels far fetched. Your body can feel the gap.”


From that moment I was not the same.


Not only did I decide to allow myself to go for it after that call (which quite literally PROPELLED me into what I had always wanted much faster)


But I watched what happened when I faced my anxiety-ridden fear.


I dismantled it and received the benefits that can only come from taking action and leaping with faith:


>>>Being able to move through fear in life quickly to where it doesn’t really exist anymore<<<


But I had to face it to get there.


The coolest part?


I see everything as an opportunity now vs. an obstacle.


Can you imagine how your life would change if you practiced facing your fears and the things you MOST don’t want to do on a daily basis??


I dare you to experiment with that.


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Jesi Carroll, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Jesi Carroll, Career and Confidence Mastery Coach, is the founder of the Re-Design Your Life Academy and The Goddess Collective; an empowerment community for women. Her purpose is to help women step into their next level self so they can become the woman they aspire to be. To show them what's possible for their life so they can leave the overwhelm behind and walk fiercely into their purpose and true calling. Jesi has been featured in dozens of podcasts, published in major magazines, has helped hundreds of women change their lives through her more than 10 years of combined mentoring and coaching experience, and is in the midst of writing two books that will be published in 2022 and a podcast on the way. She decided that when she finally broke free from the hamster wheel 9-5 life, she was going to show others how to do the same and how to go from "just surviving" to living a life by design.

 
 

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