Self-Care? Check!
- Dec 3, 2021
- 2 min read
Written by: Geneva D. Ashley, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

When “life” happens in our personal space, we tend to retreat, but only when it’s convenient for everyone else who depends on us. It seems to be so easy to “show up” for everyone else, while the storms of trials and tribulation” are raging deep within. It’s almost as though we feel that we are defeated when we make the decision to step away to focus on ourselves. Why? What will we gain from being the super-hero to others, while crumbling within and playing second-fiddle to the needs of everybody else?

Sure, you may be reading this and saying, “Well, I don’t have time to slow down, my family needs me, my job needs me, my church needs me, I am too busy to take a break.” And I must say, I am right there with you. I have a family, a spouse, businesses, ministry, and a job, to name a few obligations. I totally understand the level of pressure presented on a consistent basis. And sure, I get it, showing up to nurture and care for those who depend on us is essential to our passion and it’s simply what we do. Yet I can’t help but pose the question, “When do you show up for you?”
Inevitably when we are so focused on putting our best foot forward to journey through the commitment of care toward others, we undoubtedly are leaving ourselves by the wayside. This poses the potential to invite internal breakdown, be it mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and ultimately physically. We must learn to unapologetically prioritize self-care valuing the one and only “temple” we have been given.
To prioritize the care of oneself is to care for those entrusted and connected. So rather than procrastinate, make a conscientious effort to take care of YOU without explanation or apologies. Your entire being will thank you!

Geneva D. Ashley, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Geneva D. Ashley is a Master Coach and Empowerment Strategist that specializes in guiding others to awaken the greater version within.
She is the Founder of Her SHE Circle, a support organization for Women, a Domestic Violence Awareness Advocate, Published Author, Certified Public Speaker, Social Media Content Creator and the Moderator of the Clubhouse convo platform called Stilettos Speak.









