Written by: Abigail Stason, Executive Contributor
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People come to me wanting to trust themselves – to experience more peace, ease, and freedom with their humanity and leadership.
Most people focus on outcomes – which is very important. Keep working towards goals. The missing piece, however, is the process—the HOW we do what we do. To be efficacious in life is to trust our mental processes and abilities. When we trust our process, we experience the agility necessary to meet the challenges of the modern world. When we trust our process, we can rest on knowing very little; however, despite that, we can navigate anything or know when to retreat or ask for support. Here are a few ways trust in our process is beneficial.
1. Do You Trust Yourself To Respond With Ability Instead Of Reacting?
Trust begins with each of us and our ability to meet what’s here. It is trusting yourself to respond with the ability (take responsibility) to meet any situation versus reacting from unconscious patterns. You can trust when you respond with ability; things WILL GO WELL. You can also trust that things will not go well when you can’t respond with ability. Knowing you did all you could in a situation by responding skillfully is much more satisfying. This is true for individuals, teams, and organizations.
2. Do You Trust Yourself To Recognize Your Mental Chatter?
We cannot trust our mental chatter; the stories made up in our heads. We treat these stories as accurate and then behave accordingly. We suffer on multiple levels when we listen to stories instead of reality. Mastery over mental chatter brings clarity and deeper intelligence to bear – more trustworthy activities.
3. Do You Place Your Trust In That Which You Can Control?
Loss of control is one of the leading causes of stress and anxiety. Loss of control is fascinating. While there is very little we can control, we try to control everything. You’ve heard this before: the one thing we CAN control is how we show up and relate to a situation. Still, we expend wasteful energy focusing on what we have zero control over.
4. Do You Trust Your Ability To Navigate Uncertainty?
Loss of predictability is the other leading cause of stress and anxiety. With the information we can predict, the nervous system knows which coping strategy will likely work. When we can’t predict, our nervous system is in a frenzy. Now, ask yourself: “What can I predict in my life, work, or anything?” Not much, right? Your ability to navigate uncertainty and know when to ask for support will carry you through unpredictable circumstances.
5. Do You Trust Your Practice Of Presence?
Through the practice of presence, you will find ease within the effort, a level of freedom not available to us when we allow our thoughts to be in charge. All that is required is to drop your ego and become a facilitator. You will end your suffering. Presence is what you can replace the effort of managing, filtering, politicking, controlling, and predicting with. As a human being and leader, you can “get out of the way” so that aligned activity moves through you as a conduit –you experience, flow, and ease within the effort.
6. Do You Trust Your Practice Of Emotional Intelligence?
The missing piece in well-being is our emotions – feeling our feelings and tapping into the wisdom of our emotions. Denying our emotions – blocking our emotional energy – leads to a contractive state in our bodies. We cause more stress to our system by denying our feelings than if we let them flow. This idea is now flowing into the mainstream; we are seeing more and more scientific research that backs this. Two critical points backed by science: emotional ventilation raises your resilience and supports your immune system. These are just a few of the benefits of trusting your process. In this paradigm, trusting others is irrelevant because you trust yourself.
While working with teams and leaders, I teach that “the process is the product.” In a modern world and as human beings, we can’t know everything. We can, however, navigate anything when we are skillful. Therefore, trust in our process allows us to navigate the complexities of our world. Trust in our process raises our self-esteem. The skills I offer support you and keep you learning. You not only walk away with practices but ALSO a strategy for sustainable/ongoing growth and development.
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Abigail Stason, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
More Master Teacher than coach, Abigail “Abby” Stason is a social activist and skill builder with 20+ years of professional experience as a leader, organizational consultant, and group facilitator. As a disrupter, Abby is committed to a new social awareness in favor of exposing outdated structures that are no longer of service, giving way to the experience of peace, freedom, and truth in the world. She is a catalyst for societal evolution. In short, she helps human beings, leaders, teams, and organizations wake up by equipping them with behavioral skills for a modern world. Abby created a conscious leadership curriculum, a series of practices that are easily accessible to everyone.
