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Why Are We Afraid Of Being Powerful?

Royce Morales is a renowned trailblazer and creator of an innovative, spiritually-based approach to inner transformation. Her program, Perfect Life Awakening, emerged from a lifetime of frustration searching for inner work that worked. She discovered that by revealing specific subconscious origins of self-sabotage and removing its persistent influence, life can shift.

Executive Contributor Royce Morales

You would think that everyone would want to manifest their innate empowerment, discover their authentic self, and live a conscious, abundant life, yes? After teaching thousands of people exact ways to do just that, I was surprised to learn that’s not always the case. In fact, it’s not unusual for many to make choices that subtly or brutally sabotage themselves. Like not doing the work, not keeping their commitments, not showing up, or numbing out in various ways. 

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Compare it to wanting to get into shape – going to the gym, observing from the sidelines as others break a sweat, then eating half a dozen donuts on the way home. 

At first, I blamed it on society’s “fast food” mentality. Seems most are more willing to devote a weekend, watch an hour webinar or read a few books and expect instant, transformational results. Many of those programs promise just that. 

But, us humans are complex creatures. Needless to say, those guaranteed, feel-good, quick-fixes are superficial, lasting about as long as the next distracting trigger.

The whys of being powerful

The perpetual seeker in me struggled to understand why people would desire to change yet not take the necessary steps. Why would discovering ways to transform their life be too big a commitment? Why would anyone prefer living unconsciously, going-through-the-motions and not being fully present? Why would they be unwilling to awaken their true purpose? Why would they rather learn temporary ways to bypass, deny or suppress their negative thoughts and reactive emotions?


Why would tasting the frosting and never eating the cake be their dessert of choice? 

Having been-there-done-that more times than I care to admit, it became obvious that fear is the culprit pulling the strings from behind the curtain.

Let me be clear. I’m not referring to obvious fears like jumping from an airplane, bungie cording off a cliff or driving a racecar. I’m talking about those subtle fears we may not realize the power of, fears that are hard to recognize and admit to. They show up as rational-sounding excuses we give, back peddling when things get difficult, choosing to take easier, non-challenging routes, not expressing our truth or asking for what we want, running for the hills rather than making a commitment, etc.

Yet, it still didn’t make complete sense to me. Why would we allow fear to overtake us even when we know the results would be positive? Why do we seat fear at the head of our table, passively listening to its insistent, ongoing commands? 

This paradox became the stimulus behind everything I teach in my inner development program. I searched obsessively for the answer, both by observing my own fears as well as those commonly displayed by my students.

It took several “lightbulb moments” for me to figure out why fear is in charge. I noticed that when a student would get in touch with a shovel full of their subconscious negative programming, although they were thrilled, often an immediate fear would kick in: There must be deeper levels to dig up, they moaned.

They began to understand that to completely embrace their power, they needed to face what’s been hiding in their closet, perhaps for lifetimes. They knew they needed to remember why they chose this life, what they were here to unearth, clean up, and contribute.

Bottom line: They started grasping the core reasons they don’t feel deserving no matter how successful they became.


Once the cause-and-effect order of how life works became clear, they realized they needed to find what they had done first to clean up the effects they were living in. They couldn’t deny the wisdom of Albert Einstein – For every action, there is an opposite yet equal reaction.

As their inner exploration grew deeper, they recognized that everything that occurred in their life was attracted as a wake-up call to remind them of what they had done first. Then, they could step out of their victim trap. 


This Higher Truth freaked out even my most fully committed students. Luckily, I provide some mighty big shovels and accurate mirrors to help along this confrontational journey.

Victim mentality

The problem is that humans find it easier to remain in a “poor me” state rather than take responsibility. It’s difficult to admit (and even remember) that we’ve chosen everything in our life. Even harder to face what we’ve done to attract those opposite yet equal reactions

Staying stuck in victim mentality provides a slew of “rewards” – attention, pity, rescuing, love, etc., encouraging us to stay imprisoned in what appears to be “safety.” It’s terrifying for us to let go of that control mechanism and be fully empowered. 

Which leads me to yet another duality I discovered. 

Fear of love/power syndrome

I began noticing in my marriage that every time my husband and I shared a magical moment, a weekend vacation, or even just a pleasant day, shortly after, we would get upset with each other. The anger was always about something silly or minor. To say the least, it was frustrating because it made no sense and happened in an instant. Why were we not able to bliss? 

It took some digging to understand that when more love (money, attention, acknowledgment, power, etc.) arrives, we subconsciously attempt to destroy it. Why? Because we don’t believe we deserve it. 

More love, in any form, triggers all the things we’ve done in the past that are still convincing us we don’t deserve it. Since we believe we are not loved due to what we’ve done, we have convinced ourselves we don’t deserve it. When love shows up in a form that is past what we believe we deserve, our Must Destroy Love program kicks in.

The same holds true about power. As we tap into more of our power, part of us screams “You don’t deserve power! Look what you did with it in the past?” And thus, the struggle and self-sabotage increase. 

We do this subconsciously, believing that we are keeping others safe from us by being powerless. 

Understanding this connection to being an empowered human is core. As long as we don’t trust ourselves with power or love, we subconsciously push them away in all kinds of creative ways.

Once consciously know that everything that has occurred in our life is a direct consequence of the choices we made and have “forgotten,” we can wake up. It may sound like we’d be walking around in a sea of guilt, but it actually works in the opposite way: We are able to feel compassion and forgiveness toward ourselves for making fear-based choices, believing we had no other option. 

Cause and effect

Here is my silly analogy about cause and effect that I share with my students: “Karma is like chewing a piece of gum, throwing it on the ground, forgetting, then turning around, stepping in it and getting pissed at the ‘irresponsible jerk’ who through it there!” 

Whether consciously or not, we are all on the same evolutionary journey. We are trying to unfold our soul’s purpose, fully connect with our authentic self, and accept and deserve our limitless power. Like the law of gravity, we are all governed by the energetic law trying to get us there: Cause and effect

We arrived here knowing that truth, but being in a physical body, we bought into fear and “forgot.” This life was chosen to help us remember and clean up the consequences of our choices. Knowing and living from that allows us to tap into our infinite, empowered existence fearlessly. 

There is nothing more important than waking up and remembering. And, when we do, the puzzle pieces fall into place, everything makes sense, and we can change the trajectory of our life. 

Then, the Fear of Love/Power Syndrome goes by the wayside because we no longer need to sabotage ourselves. We become empowered to make conscious, loving choices and live the life we deserve.

Sensing that subconscious Fear of Love/Power is stopping you in life? Ready to evolve to what’s possible by getting connected to your higher consciousness? Discover and neutralize the origins of fears that are controlling you so you can move to personal empowerment in all areas of your life. Contact me for a free 30-minute consultation to see if this spiritually based inner work is a good fit. Email me at


Royce Morales, Transpersonal Development Speaker and Author

Royce Morales is a renowned trailblazer and creator of an innovative, spiritually-based approach to inner transformation. Her program, Perfect Life Awakening, emerged from a lifetime of frustration searching for inner work that worked. She discovered that by revealing specific subconscious origins of self-sabotage and removing its persistent influence, life can shift.

She developed a clearing technique that releases programmed, false beliefs from this as well as previous lives. Negative patterns and hidden fears resolve so paralyzing issues lose their impact. This exclusive, time-tested work takes students from triggered to empowered, uncovering their authentic, purpose-driven life.

PLA also provides applicable tools to navigate daily life – ways to rapidly shift from anger to calm, fear to acceptance, judgement to connection. The work emphasizes awareness of, trusting and following one’s innate intuitive wisdom, then taking bold, inspired, real-world action.

The Perfect Life Awakening courses take place remotely and are presented in small groups to provide individual attention. Royce offers private inner discovery sessions to facilitate deeper work, utilizing her proprietary spiritual clearing technique called Spiritual Cognition Integration.

Royce is the author of three books about her teachings: Want – True Love, Past Lives and Other Complications; Know: A Spiritual Wake-up Call and Back: Rebirth After Stroke, all available on Amazon.

Go to Royce’s YouTube channel where she shares enlightening information about her teachings. She posts weekly blogs and writes articles for several other publications.



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