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Re-Igniting Connection With Your Partner Outside The Bedroom

Written by: Sophie Benbow, Senior Level Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Sophie Benbow

In the fast-paced world of today, it can be easy to let the connection with your partner slip away. The demands of work, family, and other commitments can leave little time for the things that matter most, like spending quality time together and nurturing your relationship.

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But it's important to remember that intimacy is essential for a healthy and happy relationship. It's not just about sex, but about feeling close, connected, and loved.

If you're looking to re-ignite the connection with your partner, there are many non-sexual ways to do so. Here are a few ideas:

Be present with your partner

The good news is, rekindling that connection doesn't require grand gestures. It starts with prioritising quality time together. Put away distractions like phones and TVs, and simply be present. Take a walk hand-in-hand, cook a meal side-by-side, or simply cuddle on the couch and share stories. This focused attention strengthens the bond you share.


Physical connection is a powerful way to bridge the gap. Don't underestimate the power of a hug, a kiss, or even a gentle massage. These affectionate gestures express care and create a sense of safety and security within the relationship.

Open communication

Honest and open communication is vital for intimacy. Communicate openly and honestly. This means being able to share your thoughts, feelings, and needs with your partner, even if they're difficult. Likewise, actively listen to their perspective, creating a safe space for vulnerability and understanding.

Shared experiences, lasting memories

Engaging in activities you both enjoy fosters connection. It can be anything from a board game night to an adventurous weekend getaway. These shared experiences create lasting memories and solidify the bond you share.

Here are some additional tips for re-igniting connection with your partner:

  • Schedule regular date nights. Even if it's just once a month, make time to go out on a date with your partner. This doesn't have to be anything elaborate. It could be something as simple as going for a walk in the park or grabbing a pizza together.

  • Make small gestures of love and appreciation. Leave a note on their pillow, tell them how much you love them, or do something nice for them without being asked. These small gestures show your partner that you're thinking of them and that you care.

  • Be supportive and understanding. Everyone goes through tough times. Be there for your partner when they need you and offer your support and understanding.

  • Forgive each other. Everyone makes mistakes. If your partner does something to hurt you, be willing to forgive them. Forgiveness is essential for maintaining a healthy and happy relationship.

Remember, a strong connection doesn't happen overnight. Patience and consistency are key. By prioritising quality time, fostering physical connection, communicating openly, and sharing experiences, you can rekindle the spark and build a lasting, fulfilling relationship with your partner.

Bonus tips for a thriving partnership

  • Don't forget the fun: Keep romance alive with playful moments, shared laughter, and light-heartedness.

  • Stay curious: Regularly ask about their life, dreams, and fears. Actively listen and show genuine interest.

  • Support their goals: Cheer them on in their endeavours and celebrate their achievements.

  • Express gratitude: Take the time to appreciate them for who they are and what they do.

By incorporating these tips, you can not only re-ignite the connection with your partner but also cultivate a relationship that thrives and flourishes.

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Sophie Benbow, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Sophie Benbow is a self-development coach, Mindfulness and Meditation teacher who holds various qualifications in Health & Fitness. She aims to guide you on a journey of self-love, healing and compassion. Head on over to her website to enquire about coaching, listen to her meditations and follow her social channels.



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