Written by: Tajana Velikinac, Executive Contributor
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Sadness, guilt, fear, anger, resentment, and revenge are all part of our human nature, but hanging on to them will keep us stuck and eventually contribute to physical illness. There are many reasons why you might have feelings of guilt. It could be because of a situation or person. It’s also common to feel guilty about something you did that you consider to be morally wrong. This type of guilt is usually accompanied by shame. Instead of acknowledging and apologizing for what you did, you may try to hide it because of shame. Some people would rather live with a constant feeling of guilt than admit their mistakes. Feeling guilty, you may start to have a negative opinion about yourself, leading to low self-esteem issues. As a result, feeling guilty can make you even more depressed. If you start to experience that depression, it’s heavy to get out of it.
Holding to the past event, we can only hurt ourselves. If you feel guilty most of the time, first you have to find out why you feel like that. Parents can have a big impact on our sense of guilt, as well religious beliefs, society, etc.
Guilt could have a negative impact on our lives, and mental and physical health and lead to self-sabotage. There is no need to feel any shame or guilt. Remember, our feeling is our thoughts in action. When you let them loose from your mind and body, you allow space inside for other, more positive experiences.
We need to acknowledge all our feelings and learn how to express them more healthily and positively.
Accepting some situation as it is. You can’t change the past, but you can accept it. It could take some time but be patient and gentle with yourself is most important and knowing that you can take as a lesson from your past and do differently in your future.
Apologize if needed. When you hurt someone, feeling ashamed is a common feeling, and sometimes it could be hard to say sorry. When you apologise, you take off that guilt that you feel. It is better to take a chance rather than live with regrets.
Don’t be so judgmental with yourself. We all make mistakes. It’s part of life, our growth, and learning. Remember, we can’t change what’s already happened, but we can learn from that and do better. We can apologize, we can try to fix and most importantly, we can learn from our mistakes. We are only humans.
Forgive yourself. Feeling ashamed could lead to low self-esteem. Acceptance is the first step to forgiveness. When you learn how to forgive yourself for past mistakes, you will grow your self-esteem and confidence. We are all doing the best we know at the given moment.
It is never too late to start loving yourself more, apologies, forgive, start over, and do better than yesterday. The only person you should compare yourself to is – yourself.
Give yourself the love that you deserve, be patient with yourself, and learn from your mistakes.
Tajana Velikinac, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Tajana is an international Empowerment Coach and motivational teacher. Teaches people about awareness and supports them in their life challenges. To be aware of yourself means to know yourself, not what others have taught you. It is a process of rewriting your unconscious mind. Love yourself means to accept yourself as you are.