Written by: Kelly Hater, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
As moms, our lives can stop in an instant. Mom's life is full of mom hustle, including the abundance of ups; nevertheless, we cannot forget about the downs.
My daughter got hurt last week.
I was working in our garden, then bam, in a split second, all things stopped. My daughter, Annabelle, busted her forehead on our generator. Nate, my husband, is screaming for me. I hear crying—all things out the window. I threw whatever I had in my hands and hustled. It is about her safety needs NOW.
I am the comforter and nurturer for our daughter. Nate was home from work and first to the scene, putting pressure on the gash. We continue to care for her in the bathroom. To see if the bleeding will stop. She clings to me with fright. My presence calms her, so her daddy can care for the wound. Many of you know he is a nurse, able to handle situations like this well. On the other hand, I get lightheaded myself. Trying to hold firm for our daughter as I feel something wet, not sure if it was blood, her tears, or mine. Holding her with unconditional love.
Nate gets the wound all cleaned up. Our tough girl! Now the question? Do we take her to the hospital for stitches? The bleeding has stopped. She wants to eat and play and already wanting to ride her balance bike. Later in the evening, we decided to get a wound closure, butterfly stitches, to close the wound to minimize the future scarring.”
Annabelle is clearly okay, but what about mom? Will that mom guilt settle in?
My entire purpose for starting Mama Bear Domain was to help moms reach self-actualization. We believe personal growth and development help build confidence leading to a life full of joy and fulfillment. When a life situation is thrown at your face, how do you handle the mom hustle?
I want to depth a little about how my approach helped me in this situation that has everything to do with self-actualization.
Benefits of Self-Actualization
My reaction to the previously stated situation in its entirety is associated with self-actualization. The work I have done with self-awareness and self-reflection enables me to understand my self-worth to build self-confidence, living life at my full potential.
Confidence in the ability to make decisions
Being mom resilient in a stressful emergency
Realistic in expectations
Assertive in expressing needs
Staying calm in an uncertain situation
“Stop existing, Start Living.”
When a similar situation arises, you can acquire the ability to handle circumstances at the best of your ability if you are self-actualized.
Mom's hustle is undeniable in the journey full of complexities from season to season in motherhood. We need to know we are imperfect, but we are fearless with the future of uncertainties withholding mom guilt. Empower Motherhood with self-assurance using an affirmation to get started on your journey of euphoria. How to reach self-actualization?
Steps To Reach Self-Actualization
Mindset Shift: go deep with yourself, not wide
Know your purpose, your cause, your belief
Understanding available opportunities: time is precious
Circle of control: You control you
Thrive into your growth zone, move out of your comfort zone
8 dimensions of wellness for a balanced well-being
Combination of stretch goals and smart goals
Understanding your goals
Finally, as mothers, we get a lot of opinions and advice from others. They mean well. I’m sure I’m guilty of giving unwanted advice when trying to help. The opinions and advice can feel overwhelming and cause mom guilt. Looking at your circle of control, you cannot control what others say. You cannot control other moms from saying, “I would take Annabelle to the hospital” or “I would not get lightheaded.” When we as moms get these types of opinions and advice, we have to remember, we can control how we respond. Self-actualization affects how you handle every facet of your life. As moms, we need to maintain a healthy and realistic perspective of ourselves to grow and continue self-actualization. Needing mom hustle during all the ups and downs of motherhood.
The only certainty is unfortunately a stressful situation is going to happen. How are you going to self-composed?
Kelly Hater, Executive Contributor, Brainz Magazine
Kelly Hater, the owner of Mama Bear Domain, has over 15 years of coaching experience and a B.S. in Health Promotion specialized in Exercise Science. She specializes in helping clients overcome mom burnout, providing a clear, decisive plan that leads her clients on a path of success. Her clients no longer let mom guilt steal their identity and goals. Moms deserve to be happy and live a fulfilling life. She personally has overcome overwhelming struggles herself. Get the accountability needed to take action. As a mom of two, she gets it.