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Is SEX Stressing You Out?

Written by: Alexandra Stockwell, MD, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


When you think of the sex you are having (or you wish you were having but aren’t), do you feel excited, satisfied, calm? Or, are you like most people who feel increased stress when they think about it? The lack of sex, or the wrong kind of sex is very triggering to many people. We are all conditioned to think that sex is wonderful. It brings pleasure and connection and is the glue in any great marriage. But let’s face it, that just isn’t true much of the time. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or married for decades, sex is far more often a source of stress than people care to admit. In fact, you might even find that you are simply too stressed to have sex! However, it doesn’t need to be that way! Stress and sexuality do not have to be contingent upon one another.

While each individual and couple have their own unique circumstances, there are some universal issues and once you understand them and how to resolve them, you absolutely can learn how to transition sex from being a source of stress to becoming a source of pleasure, passion, and gratifying adventures. You don’t have to be too stressed for intimacy and you can have sex without stress.

The main way to do this is through education. Whether that is learning about what causes stress in a relationship, or what kind of sexual pleasures you and you partner desire most right now.

There is so much more that goes into a healthy, satisfying sex life than most people realize (which limits how much they can solve on their own). Plus, there are many perspectives, restrictive attitudes, cultural conditioning, and false myths to un-learn as well as the need to better understand your anatomy, incorporate cutting edge research findings to enhance pleasure, and learn from couples with vibrant sex lives.

The problem is that it’s near impossible to find an opportunity to do this. Plus, it’s a very private topic and it can be embarrassing to sign up for a class the way you might when you want to improve your cooking skills or learn CPR. My colleagues and I took all of this into consideration when we created the 2022 SEX SEMINAR.

In the seminar, we are sharing all the tips, advice, perspectives, and strategies that will take the stress out of sex and get you connecting with your spouse more intimately, frequently, and fulfillingly. (ooh la la!) Whether you are a man or a woman – a low drive spouse or a high drive spouse – a hopeless romantic or a fanatic for the fact – you deserve the education to turn your challenges into delicious intimate experiences and this seminar will help you to do so. My presentation in the 2022 SEX SEMINAR is about Uncompromising Intimacy where I go into all the ways in which compromise will not serve you. We have all been taught to compromise in order to keep the peace, but actually it erodes erotic energy and creates disconnection. Instead, when you learn all about uncompromising intimacy and the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage, you will be able to fuel your relationship with passion, intimacy, and deep emotional connection for the rest of your lives. Other presentations in the 2022 SEX SEMINAR focus on debunking myths about what men want vs what women want, how to achieve emotional intimacy, recovery from infidelity, working through the challenge of diminished attraction to your spouse, dealing with differences in libido, uncovering common sex questions, perfecting communication, overcoming life as roommates and getting back to being lovers, sexual mindfulness practices, overcoming porn use, healing from betrayal, actual techniques for how to touch one another in order to feel more connected and enjoy more pleasure, and so much more! The 2022 SEX SEMINAR is filled with the best advice available. It was designed by the brightest minds in the industry to transform your mindset about sex and intimacy in your marriage and overcome the common obstacles many couples face. If you’re like most of my clients, you don’t want to read about this online, when someone might look over your shoulder. You don’t want to sign up for something and find yourself in a porn site when you were looking for something else. I can’t really write about these matters in any detail in this publication.

This seminar involves a one-time purchase amount of $20. (The website says $35 but if you purchase from this link the checkout page will show $20, which is a special discount for Brainz readers!) And you can watch the whole thing in the privacy and comfort of your home. You’ll have lifelong access so you can go through as many presentations as you want to, at the pace that suits you, learning and implementing as you go. This is really a very special opportunity because every presenter is a mature expert, who practices what they preach. It’s designed for couples who love one another, who just aren’t sure where to turn or whom to ask for accurate, supportive, trustworthy information to help with issues in the bedroom. You don’t have to look any further, just sign up for the 2022 SEX SEMINAR and start reaping the benefits immediately! In case you’re wondering why bother, let me inform you that great sex leads to

  • Lower blood pressure.

  • Healthier immune system.

  • Better heart health, possibly including lower risk for heart disease.

  • Improved self-esteem.

  • Decreased depression and anxiety.

  • Increased libido.

  • Immediate, natural pain relief.

  • Better sleep.

And, of course, it feels good and is lots of fun. So don’t be shy, take advantage of this beautiful opportunity to learn and grow, and enjoy more closeness and connection with your partner.

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Alexandra Stockwell, MD, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Known as “The Intimacy Doctor,” Dr. Alexandra Stockwell is an Intimate Marriage Expert who specializes in coaching couples to build beautiful, long-lasting, passionate relationships.

For over 20 years Dr. Alexandra has shown men and women how to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life, from the daily grind of running a household to intimate communication and ecstatic experiences in the bedroom.

A wife of twenty-six years and a mother of four, Alexandra firmly believes the key to passion and fulfillment isn’t compromise ‒ it’s being unwilling to compromise. When both partners feel free to be themselves, their relationship becomes juicy, nourishing, and deeply satisfying.

Dr. Alexandra is the bestselling author of “Uncompromising Intimacy” and host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast.



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