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How To Change Your Life By Changing Your Questions

Sep 30, 2022
2 min read

Written by: Anna Frummerin, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Did you know that the difference in the quality of people’s lives often comes down to the quality of the questions they consistently ask themselves? If you ask a disempowering question, such as “Why does this always happen to me?” your subconscious mind may even make something up, such as “Because you aren’t good enough” or “Because you are not smart enough.” If you’re wondering why it works like that, it is because our subconscious mind is a proving mechanism.

Wood figures of people stand with Light bulbs glowing and question mark symbol.

Whatever we constantly affirm to ourselves, the subconscious finds proof to show us that it is true. This negative self-talk will only prevent you from uncovering how to reconnect with yourself. But, if you start asking yourself empowering questions, such as “What can I learn from this mistake I made?” your brain will look for answers to this question and often come up with an answer that not only makes you feel better but allows you to celebrate and reconnect with your true self.

This is why asking quality questions is so important. Because quality questions create a quality life. They direct our mental focus and ultimately determine how we think and feel. The key is to develop a pattern of questions that empower your true nature. For example, focus on quality questions such as:

  • What am I most happy about in my life now?

  • What am I most excited about in my life now?

  • What am I most proud about in my life now?

  • What am I most grateful about in my life now?

  • What am I enjoying most in my life right now?

  • What am I committed to in my life right now?

  • Who do I love?

By making quality questions part of your daily ritual, you will be able to access your most empowering emotional states. And over time, as you consistently practice doing so, you will be able to empower yourself emotionally and create mental blueprints to happiness, excitement, pride, gratitude, joy, commitment and love — which is who you are at your core.

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Anna Frummerin, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Anna Frummerin is a Leadership & Mindset Coach with a core focus on helping her clients achieve results by enhancing their mindset and improving their communication. As a 4-time cancer survivor, she has discovered through her own life experience what it takes to win in life no matter what the challenges are. She is a Certified NLP Leadership Coach, ICF Certified Executive, Life Coach, and Action Learning Team Coach and has dedicated her life to helping others become the best version of them. She is the founder of A New Approach (ANA) – An online coaching and training company serving clients across the globe. Her mission: Discover the "Hidden Champion" inside and win big at The Game of Life.

 
 

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