Written by: Gabby Cole, Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
As a full-time working mom of twins, I have a special place in my heart for others in the same position—moms who are burning the candle at both ends; who have multiple passions; who just want to get it right and feel fulfilled.
My north star is to challenge traditional gender roles and empower women. That starts with confidence. Just like any other skill, a woman’s confidence is something that needs to be built into the foundation during adolescent development. A little girl's first role model is her mother. An easy way to understand how she feels and what she needs is to look at her mom. What does she see?
If you are a mom, you may not love the thought of answering this question. It calls on us to look inward, and that can be uncomfortable. Do any of these sound familiar?
“I go to my closet to hide from my kids and cry on a weekly basis.”
“I think I am a bad mom.”
“I am trying to manage so much I can’t think straight.”
“I don’t have the motivation to do anything anymore. I am just going through the motions.”
If they do, rest assured you’re not alone. The idea that we are supposed to raise confident women when we feel anything but can be enough to drive a grown woman crazy!
The problem is that our modern methods of “self-care” to combat these huge confidence deficits are like band-aids on a gunshot wound. Don’t get me wrong—I’m a fan of spa day, girls night out, or a weekend getaway. But these are temporary solutions that do not address the heart of the problem.
We need to find a sustainable way to find our own harmony between giving to ourselves, giving to our families and managing expectations realistically. Without that balance, we are lost in the maze of motherhood, going through the motions.
This very experience inspired me to create a course called the M.A.Z.E. Model. Each mom has her own path out of the maze, and I want to help you find yours. I’d love to hear your story. Shoot me a text at 1-707-309-6252 to share and learn more about how my M.A.Z.E Method might be able to help you.
Gabby Cole, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
I am Gabby Cole—Founder/CEO, mother of twin girls, and advocate for moms everywhere. I was married in 2011, and by 2012, I was a mother to twin girls. I have an established career in pharmaceutical sales, as well as pursuing my dreams of becoming a “Mompreneur.” I hope to dedicate my life to helping women like me find their purpose and become the woman and mother they want to be.