Do You Know What Trashing Is?
Written by: Mayra Cardozo, Executive Contributor
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This week, I experienced the trashing phenomenon of sororities' dark side.
My work was questioned by a feminist woman who denounced my profile in a feminist group accusing me of being oppressive, sexist, and fatphobic. Also, she encouraged a mass cancellation of my profile just because I didn't condone the radical feminist idea that body exposure is harmful to the feminist movement.
I understand the ideas behind this, and they are very legitimate, but I have the right to disagree.
What is unjustifiable is to impose an idea on someone else through the phenomenon of detonation. For example, "If you don't think like me, I'm going to comment on all your profile pictures to expose you and talk about how you are a fake feminist."
This dialogue of differences in counterpoints would be entirely possible if, instead of exposing me, the person wanted to build a conversation with me in private, without telling myself and trying to destroy my credibility with my followers, family, friends, and clients.
It hurt me a lot because I've was attacked by women who disagree with feminism, but feminist women struck me for the first time.
However, this should not focus; we should seek dialogue, union, and respect, not imposing knowledge and judgments.
What happened to me is an example of the detonation phenomenon. This phenomenon is frequent when people with progressive ideals often use it but who, in reality, become the idea of the oppressed printing the oppressors' actions.
Trashing isn't disagreeing with an idea. It's a ferocious form of reputation assassination ‒ it's the "just because you blocked me because I was being naughty and inconvenient on your profile I'll blast you, I'll throw your @ in a group to have a collective cancellation."
Trash is as cruel as gang rape.
It is manipulative, dishonest, and excessive. The rhetoric of ethical conflict occasionally disguises it, but it is not to expose disagreements or resolve differences. Instead, it is to discredit and destroy.
This attack makes you feel that your mere existence is detrimental to Movement and that there is nothing you can do to change it.
Unfortunately, I experienced the dark side of the sorority, which is nothing more than the reproduction of the patriarchal logic of female rivalry.
Finally, you must know that this is not the only way to suffer from this phenomenon.
Detonation can be done privately or in a group environment, in the face or behind, through ostracism or open denunciation.
Whichever method is used, detonation involves a violation of integrity, declaration of uselessness, and contestation of motivation. Indeed, an attack is not actions or ideas but the individual himself.
Mayra Cardozo, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Mayra is one of the pioneers in Brazil in feminist coaching and is something she is passionate about. Despite being a lawyer and partner in a famous office in Brazil and a university professor of Human Rights, these were not enough for her. She always wants to make a difference in people's lives. It was then that she discovered her passion and became a life coach; she has a brilliant curriculum involving the best national and international courses. The objective of your work is to empower human beings to be their best version and help them emancipate themselves from socially constructed beliefs to be their essence. Her approach is different. It aims to unite the coaching process with the development of an inclusive and emancipatory awareness.
