Written by: Dale Darley, Executive Contributor
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Recently I watched the last episode of Lucifer. What I love the most is when he looks deeply into someone’s eyes and asks, ‘What is it that you truly desire?’ If he looked at me that way, well, I’d confess too. But drooling over fictitious characters aside, he asks a great question.
So, what is it that you truly desire?
Recently, I bought a new office chair. I wanted it. Ever since my spine fractured, I have struggled with what to sit on. A few months ago, I dusted off an old office chair, plumped it up with cushions and lumbar support, and here I have sat feeling miserable.
The chair is what I’d call the material and mundane in my heart’s desire process. I want it. It will make me feel good – it serves a deeper purpose, but it isn’t what my heart truly desires.
Last year was a big birthday. The last big birthday was ruined by someone close to me.
For this last birthday, there were two options. I’ve never been one for the beach and lying around, but I felt I would like to be pampered, and so it became an option. This is what I call magical in my heart’s desire process. It’s not going to change the world, but it will change how you feel about your world.
It doesn’t take a genius to work out that I didn’t go. But I did spend time with some lovely friends, and I had a great cake – result!
Magical things include a new job, changing career, moving house, finding a new partner, and stuff like that. They, too, have a deeper meaning and purpose. They certainly change how you view your life.
Last year I ran a live beta version of Journey Of The Heart. ‘A’ joined and fully immersed herself in the learning. At one time, I was convinced that she would follow her heart’s desire and get a drum kit. We’d join forces in a rock and roll band and tour the world. When we came to creating a vision for her heart’s desire, something very different emerged.
Here’s what she said:
‘It was doing the vision board which made me realize that I wanted a relationship - before that, I was Miss Independence & probably keeping men at bay! I also realized that I was ready for a relationship and told the Universe. The man I’ve met, totally unexpectedly, is very different from the type I’ve attracted before, very in touch with his feminine side. I’m taking that as a measure of how much I’ve changed and grown.’
My vision board did have a picture of a man on it and a novel I wanted to write, but I wanted something different. What I wanted was in the magnificent part of the process. My heart’s desire was around the impact I could make on the world. Like you, I have many experiences that I could use to inspire others. But although I have loved many of the things that I’ve done and do, something was missing.
And then, just like that, someone interviewed me for their show and started to ask questions about something else that I had overcome – the journey of my heart.
I journaled on it, I almost burnt the house down with sage pondering on it, I meditated with crystals, and I even consulted the dogs – they said woof and gimme treats.
Then I remembered to look deep into Lucifers eyes – What is it that you truly desire?
I want to help my clients create a deeper connection with their heart – the 7th sense and live from a place of love and connection.
A question then for you? Do you really love what you do? Truthfully?
You make like it. It may give you a great income. But is it what fills your heart, enables and empowers you to want to get out there and inspire others?
This is what magnificent is. It’s working from the heart and doing everything from a desire to change the world in some way.
Okay, heart’s desire process time.
At the start of each new month or new moon, it’s a great idea to think about what you want. The things on your list can be anything. The point is for you to scribble and to keep scribbling. These can be anything from new shoes, the windows painted, to a baby, a new job or change in business direction, better health, self-love, inner peace, or meeting your soul mate. Just get them all out. Why anything? Because often, what we desire, remember has a deeper fundamental meaning. New shoes could be about self-esteem, new doors – safety, or a holiday – you need to unwind and escape from day-to-day stress.
Start with the mundane and material, move onto the magical, and finish with the magnificent. Keep coming back and adding things in. This is great fun, and you will end up with all kinds of things on your list.
Mundane and material
These are the things you feel are everyday things, such as new windows, shoes, throws for the sofa, new crockery, etc. It’s basically stuff that you want that will probably make you feel happy.
Magical
These are things that feel a bit more special, like a holiday or a new job, and they can include healing relationships and making friends with someone who has hurt you.
Magnificent
These are the things that you want to do that will change the world. This might be a cause close to your heart, and perhaps sharing your healing journey with others to show them what is possible.
How do these make you feel?
When you look at the list, find one or two things that resonate and ask how you feel and who you will be when you have those things. Will new crockery help you to feel proud to invite friends over for dinner. Will a holiday restore your soul. Does having a heart-led business serve a greater purpose, and you feel like you are living your mission?
Journal it.
Write your heart’s desires – start with the mundane and material, move to magical, and end with the magnificent. Reflect on why these are important right now.
Now, guess what you need? Yep, it’s an action plan. We’ll talk about that another day.
If creating a connection with and healing your heart so that you can discover what it is your heart desires, then let me invite you on a journey with your heart. Who knows where you will end up and who you will inspire?
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Dale Darley, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Dale works with her clients to help them to discover the magic in their story through the power of writing, journaling, and energy work. Dale is an expert at getting your story out, finding the essence of who you are, what you want to become, and supporting you to get what you want through coaching and programs. She believes that writing heals, and her vision and mission is to create a community of people who find clarity, purpose, and meaning through their writing. That these people go on to inspire others to know what is possible in the world. Dale holds an MBA from The University of Glamorgan and an ILM Level 7 Executive Coaching certificate. She served in senior marketing management roles in the IT and manufacturing sectors before working for herself.
