Are You Sabotaging Your Own Success?
- Brainz Magazine
- Aug 3, 2020
- 4 min read
After being chained to the same corporate job for close to 14 years and living with debt for most of her adult life, Brenda decided it was time to stop playing small.
When I was younger, I wondered why some people seemed to be able to attract (and keep) abundance, specifically money in such an effortless way. I had always been able to manifest (aka make real) money when I needed it, but I never seemed to be able to keep it. The money would come in, and then an unexpected bill would show up, or something would need to be fixed and I was back thinking, “maybe I just wasn’t meant to keep the money?”.
It wasn’t until I started transforming my own money stories and studying the subconscious mind that I realized, I had some massive money and success blocks. I had literally been sabotaging my own success without even realizing it. A money and success block is a negative subconscious belief that limits you from achieving your conscious desires. What makes them tricky is that they can be hard to spot because we don’t realize we have them.
When it comes to money and success, women especially tend to have a lot of blocks around their ability to create and have money.
I hear things like this from women all the time:
"Oh, I'm just not meant to be wealthy."
"There is no way I could make that much money."
"My husband is the smart one with money. He makes all of the money."
"I could never make as much money as my husband (or ex-husband)."
Everyone has money blocks in some way shape or form, and having more money doesn’t get rid of them.
The first step in clearing your blocks is to identify them. Here are three common money and success blocks and how you can start to work through them:
1. You’re an over-giver:
You give, give, give and that means you are not actually open to receiving. This might show up as feeling uncomfortable or even guilty about charging people money so you undercharge or you give things away for free. Maybe it shows up as you never letting anyone else pay for things when you go out. “Oh don’t worry, I’ve got that”.
Being an over-giving, non-receiver can show up in a much simpler way as well. Ask yourself this, when someone gives you a compliment, how do you react? Do you get all weird and awkward, or do you feel like you need to give one right back? If that sounds like you, you’re not open to receiving, and that’s going to be a challenge in all areas of life. Especially when it comes to money and success.
Working through this block starts with learning to say yes to yourself; this can be as simple as blocking of “me time” once a week for yourself. On a deeper level, practice simply saying “thank you” when someone compliments you, offers to pay, or gives you a gift.
2. You’re surrounded by low-vibe, lack, and scarcity mindset people:
Like attracts like so if you surround yourself with people who focus on lack and scarcity vs. abundance and wealth you will reflect that. This one can show up in a few different ways, you attract or keep clients that don’t value you, but you feel bad about letting them go. You hang around people who complain about how expensive things are or how the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. You allow your success to get side-tracked by the negative opinions of family and friends.
Working through this starts by removing yourself or limiting your exposure to situations where you are surrounded by people who would rather bitch and complain vs. taking action to improve their circumstances. Next, start spending time with people who have an abundance and wealth mindset. I recommend joining a business mastermind group with like-minded people that includes high-level coaching; these have been a game-changer for the growth of my business.
3. You say or think things like “It’s not all about the money”:
Money is energy, it has no meaning except the meaning you give it. Not valuing and respecting the money you have (or don’t have) right now shuts your subconscious mind down to finding opportunities for you to attract and keep more money. Why would it waste time on that when it’s not important to you? Saying things like this can also be a great excuse for people who don’t want to take control of their finances. That was totally me. I had a horrible relationship with my money and didn’t want to look at what a disaster my finances were in.
Working through this belief starts but changing your perspective on money; it’s a tool that can allow you to help others. The more you have, the more you can help others. Next, you need to build a relationship with your finances just like you would with a friend. It sounds weird, but it’s actually very liberating and allows you to acknowledge any worry you may have around money so you can take action and move forward.
If you’re ready to start your journey from Worry-to-Wealth I have created a FREE program based on one of my three-step transformational processes. You can access it here
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After being chained to the same corporate job for close to 14 years and living with debt for most of her adult life, Brenda decided it was time to stop playing small. She changed her relationship with money and success (and more importantly herself) to turn her passion into profit. Within 7 months of leaving her corporate job, she had built a successful 6-figure business. As a High-Performance Mindset Coach, and the host of The Limitless Life podcast Brenda helps other driven Women tap into the power of their subconscious minds so they can access their full manifesting potential. She does this by helping transform limiting beliefs and fears that are creating patterns of self-sabotage so they can create an abundance mindset and go from worry to wealth.
