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7 Types Of Soulmates And How To Attract The One You Want Into Your Life

Written by: Victoria Rader, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


Valentine’s chocolates and flowers come and go, as we continue to yearn for a meaningful soulful relationship with our loved ones.

You might have heard a version of a Greek myth of an immortal soul having been broken into two parts and cast upon the earth. The two parts, now as two soulmates, can only be happy and complete if they find each other. Romantic as it may be, this is NOT a healthy paradigm for a relationship! In life, we have the possibility of many romantic soulmates of different types, each teaching us a valuable lesson.

Single or married, in a partnership, or in between, you, just as you are, are created to be whole. It is by connecting to and through this wholeness that you will fully create and attract a fulfilling soulmate relationship.

7 types of soulmates

To do so, first, let’s look at the 7 types of one’s soulmate journey. Every time we feel a soul-to-soul pull, we enter into a soulmate relationship, hoping for it to be the one. Not all of our soulmate relationships will last forever, yet each and everyone is meant to provide us with a deep lesson to learn. We either learn the lesson and apply it to creating a loving lasting relationship, or we refuse to learn the lessons, and then are doomed to repeat the damaging patterns. Here are the 7 types of soulmate relationships with the hidden lessons they carry.

1. Twin Flames / “just like me”

If not your counterpart, then who is a twin flame? Your twin flame is someone who is reflecting you back to you, mirroring both your strengths and your weaknesses. When things are good, they are really really good. But, when there is a bit of a disagreement, flames are truly flying, and they are not the romantic ones!

Lesson: I know who I am, and I know what it is that I truly want.

2. Unfinished Business / “needs me”

These relationships respond to a soul calling or a subconscious agreement. We find ourselves in this relationship, when someone’s need is reflected back by our need to meet it. When needed lessons are learned, partners may feel that the spark is completely gone, and no amount of effort or counseling seems to rekindle it. The business of a relationship is finished.

Lesson: I know how to move forward in life in the best and highest way.

3. Incompatible Soulmate / “doesn’t get me”

As per its title, an incompatible soulmate is someone that you truly have very little to nothing in common with. We often find ourselves with incompatible soulmates because we feel somehow forced into the relationship, having thought it to be our best option at a time.

For some of us, fear of being alone has brought us into this relationship, and we are afraid to let go, as that fear of being lonely is more devastating than any heartache of incompatibility.

Lesson: I know how to let go, and how to trust that a loving relationship is possible for me.

4. Compatible Soulmate / “gets me”

A compatible soulmate is someone that life feels easy with. You agree on a lot of topics, and life seems relatively smooth. When both partners choose to grow together, the relationship develops into a beautiful and vibrant life partnership.

Alternatively, without a desire to grow together, a stagnant feeling of being stuck starts creeping in. One might be gasping for a reason to leave, and, not finding it, as everything seems to be “fine”, passion slowly dies out.

Lesson: I know how to grow and expand through a relationship.

5. Diamond in the Rough Soulmate / “sees the best in me”

In this relationship you see your partner’s potential. Grinding through life’s challenges and rough edges, you often polish each other and discover new deeper levels of intimacy and trust.

This relationship has great potential as long as both partners have a shared desire to grind at it as long as it takes.

Lesson: I see the best in my partner, and I patiently persevere.

6. Lifetime Partner / “belongs with me”

Often one of the first few types of relationships will develop into a feeling of belonging together. You and your partner are growing through live, while both of you are developing individually and deepening the partnership.

You are not in a relationship because you need another person. You are together because you want to be with them. You share common interests, memories, and life-long lessons. You truly are one as a couple, without losing your identities but fully accepting each other for who you are.

It is never too late to have the rest of your life with a person that you love.

Lesson: I am worthy and deserving of a loving lifetime partnership.

7. Divine Partner/ “belongs with me forever”

If you believe that life goes on beyond the grave, your life partnership can expand into a divine partnership. You are united not only in your day-to-day activities, but also in your eternal destiny. It is often this call of your shared destiny that brings you together.

Lesson: I love and am loved beyond this mortal realm.


As you master the above lessons and are seeking to create the most fulfilling soulmate relationship, grab your Manifest mE Journal, and proceed to follow the laws of manifesting as given in the journal, as well as the 3 specific steps below:

  1. Write a list of at least 50+ qualities you want in your soulmate

  2. Focus daily on developing and deepening one of those qualities in yourself

  3. At night visualize what a partnership with one of those qualities might feel like. Feel it and fall asleep dreaming of it (as our subconscious mind continues to focus on our last conscious thought for four hours after we fall asleep!)

Having been married for 26 years to my originally diamond-in-the-rough partner, we have deepened and developed our love for each other to enjoy our divine partnership. Meaningful, nourishing love is not only possible, it is possible for YOU.


  • Learn more about the 7 types of soulmates via Victoria’s interview at the HEARTS Entwined podcast

  • Break any repeating self-sabotaging conscious and subconscious patterns of unhealthy soulmate relationships by joining Quantum Freedom (one of the latest manifesting videos on manifesting your soulmate).

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Victoria Rader, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Victoria Rader, PhD in Metaphysics, is a Possibility Coach and founder of YU2SHINE. Through thousands of client sessions and seminars, Victoria has witnessed that the cap to one's fulfillment is defined by their subconscious programming. As a result, she created products and services with a unique success formula of healing one’s heart, freeing one’s mind, and expanding one’s skills to see, create and live a life of limitless possibilities. The host of All About the Voice podcast, internationally best-selling author of Until You Win, Until You Shine, and Manifest mE journal, creator of mE apps, and founder of the Quantum Freedom movement, Victoria is excited to launch her newest book mE and My Money Map: 35 Universal Laws to Make Money Work for You. Her mission is to both awaken and empower you to your life of limitless possibilities.



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