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Perfect Imperfection – Embracing the Art of Self-Love

Written by: Angela Cairns, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Angela Cairns

Self-Love. In a world obsessed with perfection, we often find ourselves caught in the web of self-judgment, constantly critiquing our every flaw. The pressure to hyper-achieve, be wittier, more confident, slimmer – the list is endless. This relentless negative self-talk can be confidence-shattering, draining, and downright exhausting. But what if we dared to shift our perspective? What if we saw the beauty in our imperfections, recognizing that they are what make us truly lovable?

Mid adult woman on the street smiling, while looking above.

Imagine a life or workplace where everyone was striving for an unattainable perfection, an idealized version of themselves. The constant undercurrent of discouragement and feelings of inadequacy would be suffocating. True connection requires vulnerability, and there's no room for that in a world where perfection reigns supreme.

Imperfections are gifts

So, let's take a moment to celebrate the gifts that imperfections bring. They provide opportunities for shared laughter, the exchange of knowledge and insights, the creation of bonds through shared endeavours, and the chance for others to shine as mentors or teachers. Imperfections open the door to seeking and receiving help and support, fostering a sense of shared humanity.

To truly embrace our imperfections, try this powerful exercise

Close your eyes and reflect on a past situation that was less than perfect. Instead of judging, identify a potential gift that could have emerged from that imperfect moment. Now, fast forward to your day ahead – how could that gift be incorporated into a future situation to yield a better solution?

Embrace the journey

As the founder of Angela Cairns Coaching, I encourage everyone to let go of preconceived outcomes and embrace themselves as perfectly imperfect. Through my coaching, I uplift and inspire mid-life women to rediscover their heart song, and their unique essence to create breakthroughs in their lives.

In a world that often demands flawless performance, my message is a reminder that our imperfections are not shortcomings but rather unique facets that contribute to our authentic selves. So, let go of the pursuit of perfection, and know that you are uniquely and wonderfully who and where you are meant to be. Embrace the journey, flaws and all.


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Angela Cairns, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Director of Calm Confident Create, Angela specializes in empowering individuals to thrive by adopting a creative thinking mindset. She guides them to shed limiting beliefs, paving the way for remarkable personal and professional growth. Angela seamlessly integrates holistic healthcare knowledge with a fusion of positive intelligence coaching and creative expression which creates a unique coaching experience that transcends traditional boundaries. This distinctive approach enhances performance and cultivates lasting happiness, guiding individuals towards their full potential. Her clients not only manage the demands of a busy life but emerge stronger, more confident, and ready to live their truth.




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