Written by Natalie Heilling, Energy Healer and Life Vision Coach
Natalie Heilling provides energy coaching where she combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching, to help individuals release what is holding them back from reaching their full potential. She is the Founder of The Energy Game which specialises in Life Vision Coaching and Workplace Coaching and Wellbeing.
Are you seeking to transcend the aftermath of narcissistic abuse, reclaim your power, and create a life of abundance? Dive into the world of energy healing and crafting your life vision with this guide. Discover how they can empower you, unlocking resilience and propelling you towards a purposeful, joyful future beyond past trauma.
Understanding Narcissistic Abuse
Narcissistic abuse is a pervasive and destructive manipulation tactic that inflicts deep wounds on its victims. Before we dive into the depths of life after narcissistic abuse, it's crucial to understand the insidious nature of this manipulation tactic. Narcissistic abuse isn't just about egotism or selfishness; it's a pervasive pattern of behaviour characterized by grandiosity, lack of empathy, and an insatiable need for admiration. Gaslighting, manipulation, and emotional abuse are common tactics used by narcissists to control their victims, leaving deep psychological wounds that go far beyond surface-level harm.
The devastating effects of narcissistic abuse extend deep into the victim's psyche, distorting their perception of reality and eroding their sense of self-worth. Gaslighting, in particular, leaves victims questioning their sanity, while relentless emotional manipulation chips away at their self-esteem. These effects can be long-lasting, leading to brain damage and Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) as the victim's nervous system becomes overwhelmed by constant stress and psychological warfare.
In this article, we will delve into the depths of narcissistic abuse, exploring its defining traits, it’s devastating effects on victims, and the journey of healing and recovery. Through the lens of energy work and holistic healing modalities, we will examine how amidst the darkness, there exists a glimmer of hope—a chance to reclaim power, restore balance, and craft a life rooted in authenticity and fulfillment.
The Reach of Narcissistic Abuse: A Deeper Look
Narcissistic abuse isn't confined to personal relationships alone; it can also show up in work environments. Picture this: micromanagement so suffocating it leaves no room for creativity or autonomy. Undermining behaviour disguised as constructive criticism, slowly chipping away at your confidence until you doubt every decision you make. The lack of trust, the constant need for validation—it's a toxic cocktail that breeds burnout and disillusionment, draining you of your passion and purpose.
Now, shift the scene to your personal lives. Here, the dynamics of control and manipulation take on a more insidious form. Imagine living in a constant state of alertness, tiptoeing around unpredictable moods. Navigating a minefield of undermining remarks, that diminish your self-worth. Gaslighting becomes a common tactic, leaving you questioning your reality and doubting your perceptions. It's a suffocating atmosphere where anxiety becomes your constant companion, feeding your insecurities until they loom larger than life itself.
In both scenarios, narcissistic abuse leaves lasting and profound wounds that can be hard to fully comprehend. Research has shown that survivors of narcissistic abuse are more likely to experience symptoms of anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Studies have also linked narcissistic abuse to physical health problems such as gastrointestinal issues, cardiovascular problems, skin problems, and immune system dysfunction, emphasizing the comprehensive toll on both mental and physical well-being.
But here's the thing: recognizing the signs of narcissistic abuse is vital, but it's what comes next that truly matters. Reclaiming power and forging ahead is the true challenge. This is where energy healing and life vision cultivation come into play, illuminating a path to reclaim power and shape a fulfilling future.
How Energy Healing Can Facilitate Recovery
At the heart of the journey towards healing lies the practice of energy healing—a holistic approach transcending conventional therapy. Through practices such as chakra balancing, and mindfulness techniques, survivors of narcissistic abuse can begin to untangle the web of trauma that binds them. Energy healing unlocks dormant potential and restores harmony to body, mind, and spirit.
Trauma from abuse is often trapped in the body as energy blocks, manifesting as physical and emotional distress. Energy healing identifies and removes these blocks, allowing the body's natural healing processes to take place. Survivors experience a heightened state of awareness and empowerment. They become better equipped to establish boundaries and cultivate self-trust, fostering a deeper sense of resilience and well-being.
Reconnecting with inner wisdom marks the first step on this journey. Narcissistic abuse often leaves individuals feeling disconnected from intuition and inner guidance. Energy healing offers a pathway to tune into innate wisdom once more.
Next, exploring core beliefs and shedding old conditioning is vital. Energy work illuminates unconscious patterns, allowing for the rewriting of empowering narratives and creating space for growth.
Perhaps most importantly, energy healing emphasizes self-compassion, urging us to extend the same kindness to ourselves as we do to others, recognizing our worthiness of gentleness and grace despite our past experiences.
How Narcissistic Abuse Effects The Chakras: A Path to Healing and Empowerment
There is an intricate connection between narcissistic abuse and the chakras—our body's energy centres crucial for health and vitality. Each chakra, from root to crown, offers insights into the imprints of abuse and pathways to healing.
The root chakra: Foundation of security and stability
In the workplace, narcissistic abuse may manifest as micromanagement, undermining behaviour, or a lack of autonomy, leaving employees feeling insecure and fearful. In personal relationships, controlling and manipulative dynamics can erode our sense of safety, triggering deep-seated anxieties and insecurities.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Fear, anxiety, insecure, self-doubt
Behaviours: Overly cautious, disconnected, aggressive, self-pitty
Physical Ailments: Digestive issues, lower back pain, adrenal fatigue
The sacral chakra: Seat of creativity and emotional balance
In the workplace, emotional turmoil and stifled creativity may arise from narcissistic abuse, leading to decreased productivity and well-being. At home, emotional manipulation can dampen creative expression and disrupt emotional equilibrium.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Creativity blocks, emotional instability
Behaviours: Withdrawn, mood swings, dependant, fear of intimacy
Physical Ailments: Sexual dysfunction, lower abdominal issues
The solar plexus chakra: Source of personal power and self-confidence
In the workplace, intimidation tactics and undermining behaviour may chip away at confidence and assertiveness, hindering the ability to thrive. In personal relationships, emotional manipulation can erode self-worth and diminish the sense of empowerment.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Low self-esteem, lack of confidence, powerless, pessimistic
Behaviours: People-pleasing, avoidance, over-analytical
Physical Ailments: Digestive issues, ulcers, liver problems
The heart chakra: Center of love and compassion
In toxic workplaces betrayal and emotional manipulation can lead to a sense of disconnection from oneself and others. In personal relationships, patterns of betrayal and emotional manipulation can shatter trust and self-love, leaving individuals feeling isolated and unworthy of love.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Lack of empathy, bitter, hateful, lonely, jealous
Behaviours: Closed-off, defensive, co-dependency, trust issues
Physical Ailments: Heart conditions, respiratory issues
The throat chakra: Gateway to communication and authenticity
In professional settings, gaslighting and dismissive attitudes may silence employees, stifling their creativity and contributions. In personal relationships, manipulative behaviours and invalidation can lead individuals to withhold their true thoughts and feelings, fearing ridicule or rejection.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Fear of speaking up, difficulty expressing authentic self
Behaviours: Holding back, passive-aggressive, gossiping
Physical Ailments: Throat issues, thyroid imbalances
The third eye chakra: Seat of intuition and insight
In professional environments, gaslighting and manipulation may lead individuals to doubt their instincts and second-guess their perceptions, fostering a climate of confusion and uncertainty. In personal relationships, the subtle manipulation and invalidation of experiences can erode trust in one's intuition, leaving individuals feeling disoriented and disconnected from their inner guidance.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Disconnection from intuition, lack of insight, confusion
Behaviours: Over-analytical, indecisive, distrustful
Physical Ailments: Headaches, migraines, vision problems
The crown chakra: Gateway to spiritual connection and higher consciousness
In professional settings dominated by egotistical leadership and spiritual manipulation, individuals may find their connection to higher consciousness severed, leading to a profound sense of disconnection and apathy. This may manifest as organizations prioritizing profit over purpose, disregarding ethical considerations and spiritual values. In personal relationships, partners driven by ego may prioritize their desires over the well-being of others, fostering a climate of spiritual disconnection and existential disillusionment.
When Blocked:
Emotions: Disconnection from spirituality, existential crisis, apathy
Behaviours: Nihilistic, disengaged, escapism
Physical Ailments: Neurological disorders, depression, insomnia
By addressing the root causes of pain through the chakras, the effects of narcissistic abuse can be transcended to emerge stronger, more resilient, and more aligned.
Embracing Life Vision: A Pathway to Reclaiming Power and Purpose
Surviving narcissistic abuse often leaves individuals feeling lost and disconnected from their sense of purpose and identity. However, as survivors begin their journey of healing, embracing a life vision becomes a crucial step toward reclaiming power and shaping the future.
Life vision involves clarifying goals, aspirations, and values, allowing individuals to set empowering intentions for themselves. It's about creating a roadmap for the life one wants to lead, free from the constraints of past abuse. By envisioning a future filled with meaning, joy, and fulfillment, individuals can cultivate a sense of purpose that propels them forward on the healing journey.
Here are some of the practical steps involved
Clarifying Goals and Aspirations: Take time to reflect on your values, dreams, and aspirations. What do you truly desire in life? By clarifying your goals, you create a clear vision for your future.
Setting Empowering Intentions: Once you've identified your goals, set empowering intentions that align with your vision. These intentions serve as guiding principles, shaping your thoughts, actions, and decisions as you navigate your healing journey.
Cultivating Resilience and Optimism: Embracing life vision helps maintain a positive outlook, even in the face of challenges. By focusing on your goals and aspirations, you develop resilience and optimism, allowing you to overcome obstacles with determination and hope.
Creating a Sense of Direction: Your life vision serves as a guiding light during difficult times, providing a sense of direction and purpose. It guides you forward, reinforcing hope and potential for growth beyond past experiences.
Empowering Personal Growth: Working towards your life vision is a journey of personal growth and self-discovery. As you pursue your goals and aspirations, you realize your potential and live a life that reflects authenticity.
Reclaiming Power: Embracing the Journey Forward
Life after narcissistic abuse is not merely about survival; it's about thriving. It's about stepping into a newfound sense of empowerment and embracing the fullness of one's potential. Through the transformative practices of energy healing and life vision cultivation, individuals can reclaim their power, rewrite their stories, and embark on a journey of healing and self-discovery. As they navigate the terrain of healing, survivors emerge not as victims, but as victors - empowered, resilient, and ready to embrace all that life has to offer.
If you would like support with energy healing and creating your life vision after narcissist abuse please contact Natalie through her website, The Energy Game, or through her social channels.
Natalie Heilling is an energy coach and the founder of The Energy Game, which combines her gift as an energy healer with traditional coaching methods to help her clients release what is holding them back to reach their full potential. Inspired by traumatic events in her own life that led to C-PTSD and a chronic illness, Natalie strives to help her clients go from feeling stuck and disconnected from their lives to finding inner peace and fulfilment. Her mission is to help people live their life vision. Most people do not know where to start when it comes' to achieving their life vision, but Natalie teaches her clients that it is not a destination, it is a place to live from.
