It's Okay Not To Be Okay
- Brainz Magazine
- Sep 27, 2022
- 5 min read
Updated: Sep 28, 2023
Written by: Nida Batool Syed, Senior Level Executive Contributor
Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.
There are and there will always be days and moments where you will feel down, empty, sad and feeling as if you're drowning in your own thoughts. It might even feel like it's you against the world and you know what? It's okay, accept what you feel, don't confront it but accept it. Welcome it because it's trying to tell you something. This feeling is coming from somewhere.
Often in our day-to-day life we get so caught up in what needs to be done, we start doing things on autopilot mode, especially when we work full-time or do full-time study. We hardly have time to connect with ourselves and to reflect on what we are feeling, how we are doing, and whether we even like what we're feeling about certain things happening in our lives, around us or maybe to us.
So when you're experiencing that moment again, the moment of discomfort, the moment you feel sad, lonely and feel the urge to cry, the first step of healing is acceptance. Sometimes all you need is a good cry or taking a step back from your circle, surroundings and family members just to be able to connect with yourself.
Listen, we often forget that we are human beings and that we have emotions and our own needs. We are not robots. The more you try to ignore that and try to adjust, the more your own identity will start fading away. Gradually and at some point, you will not recognise yourself anymore. All that remains are some memories and you will ask yourself where did it go wrong? How did I end up here? How did I become the person I am now? I never used to be like this...
Trust me you don't want to get to that point in your life. We only live once, life is and always will be a roller coaster ride but hey! that's where the joy comes from, the ups and downs keep us alive.
So what can you do or what should you do when you feel overwhelmed, in the moments you feel down, sad, lonely or maybe anxious, try this out:
1. Start with acceptance and tell yourself it's okay to feel this way and do what you feel needs to be done to process it. Do you need a thirty minutes walk in solitude? A day by yourself, or maybe journalling would be a good idea too. For some, it's going for a swim or relaxing at a spa. You have to find what works for you. Another thing you can do and what I would definitely suggest is to either listen to a guided meditation or if you can't meditate or you don't like meditation try this out: Put on some music, your favourite song, the song that you feel deeply in your soul. Listen to it, sing along or maybe even dance to it. You will start to feel in control again.
2. Now, when you feel the same emotion coming up again, at some point and it's completely up to you when, but at some point I want you to talk to your emotion. So for example, let's say it's sadness, accept it, welcome it and ask it to sit in front of you. It's up to you if you want to do this with open or closed eyes, but just see the sadness sitting in front of you, give it a colour, a shape, whatever you like. And now talk to sadness and say: I know you are here for a reason and I know you are trying to tell me something. Can you tell me why you are here? What do you want me to see, feel or understand? ( Remember there is no right or wrong, just accept it and listen)
When you are done with the conversation, tell your sadness: Thank you for coming, I understood the message, you can leave now. I will be fine. and you will notice a shift.
Remember we are all unique. Of the many techniques, we use this as mental health professionals. So if it works for you, great! If it doesn't work out as expected, don't worry there is definitely a different approach that will work for you. But it is worth trying this out first!
At my practice, I offer tailor-made sessions based on my client's needs, and Even though I charge everybody the same price, it's important to me that we don't waste time on trying several things out but use the techniques that I know as a professional would work and avoid what wouldn't. Also, during the 30-minute free virtual consultation, you can tell me what your expectations are so that we can work on it together.
Hope you find this article helpful don't forget to send me an email at info@luminoustransformationalcoaching.com and tell me how you felt about the aforementioned technique to cope with your emotions.
Nida Batool Syed, Senior Level Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Nida Syed is the founder and CEO of Luminous Transformational Coaching practice and a senior member of the Accredited Counsellors, Coaches, Psychotherapists and Hypnotherapists Register (ACCPH), a member of The British Association of Therapeutic Hypnotists & NLP Practitioners (BAThH), and complies with their strict code of ethics. Nida Syed is also a registered member of the Complementary Medical Association (CMA), which is internationally recognized as the elite force in professional, ethical complementary medicine by professional practitioners, doctors, and increasingly, by the general public. She is evaluated and approved by the International Practitioner of Holistic Medicine (IPHM) as an Executive member as well. This accreditation is a guarantee of quality and expertise.
She currently lives and is based in Manchester since 2019 and does virtual sessions with clients from all over the world. A face-to-face session is possible if that is something a client really wants. She works together with Brighter Space and has a therapy room located in Wilmslow, Greater Manchester.
Before moving to the UK, Nida used to live in the Netherlands where she chose to do a BA in Applied Psychology because she has always been interested in the workings of the mind and human behaviour. She has worked for years in the HR department for health care institutions while studying, and she also has medical knowledge from completing the medical assistant course in Amsterdam.
After settling in the UK Nida wanted to do things differently and stop working in the regular health care system where she felt limited. Believing that each person is unique and that someone cannot be truly helped and healed by following a specific protocol or putting a label on them, she opted for a guiding role and completed a practitioner's course to become a coach. During this course, she felt like a whole new world opened up to her and decided to further expand her skills and knowledge with mastery in NLP and Hypnotherapy.
The reason for Nida to choose this path is because she believes that psychology goes hand in hand with a holistic approach. That's why in her practice, she makes sure that she is not only listening to the client but also adapts to their needs during each session, to build an authentic relationship with each client. She uses her background in the medical field, mental health, and spirituality to help clients master their mindset, grow in confidence, overcome their fears, unlock their fullest potential and discover a better version of themselves.
Nida feels most fulfilled when she helps people find their inner light after going through a transformation. She feels honored to contribute to other people's growth, supporting them in their mental health and guiding them into accepting themselves.
Nida was also born with spiritual gifts such as energy healing, which she utilizes as a Reiki Master and is a qualified Reiki teacher as well. Through Reiki healing, she helps clients release energy blockages that cause delays and obstacles in their life.
