top of page

How To Recognize Ineffective Therapy

  • Writer: Brainz Magazine
    Brainz Magazine
  • Jul 4, 2023
  • 4 min read

Written by: Thomas Goenczi, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.

Executive Contributor Thomas Goenczi

The American Psychological Association (2016) estimates that 75% of individuals who seek any form of psychotherapy find benefit in it. The study quantified a benefit as showing improved emotional and psychological well-being, fewer sick days, fewer medical issues and increased work satisfaction. Even though the statistic is encouraging it would be prudent to understand a couple of the potential elements that contribute to an unsuccessful counselling experience. By uncovering these contributing factors of ineffective therapy, we can be more vigilant of some of the obstacles that get in the way of a successful therapeutic experience.

trees surrounded with fogs

One of the most common indicators of ineffective counselling is an inability to connect with the therapist. A good way to identify if you are connecting with your counsellor is by reflecting after each session on how the rapport is between the two of you. If you notice that you can speak more freely as the sessions go on, and feel as though you are being heard, then a foundation of trust is organically being fortified.


However, sometimes you encounter a counsellor that you just can’t click with. This is natural of course, as we can’t connect with everyone no matter how much we try. Relatively speaking, one can envision by the 4th or 5th session if their rapport with their therapist can lead them to attain what they intended to with counselling. Good indicators to reflect on during these first sessions are if you are noticing objective progress (emotional processing, reduction in symptomology etc.), an ability to connect with the presenting techniques and modalities, or checking in on an intuitive level, “Does this feel right?”


If you notice that these three aspects are incongruent with your needs then it may be best to talk to your counsellor about it. This not only gives the client some form of empowerment but also allows the counsellor an opportunity to pivot and work to better suit their needs as well. However, sometimes one needs to sever the relationship entirely, this can be frustrating and deflating. Nevertheless, it’s important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t have to force things with your therapist. If you can’t be your natural self, then it may be in your best interest to find someone else sooner than later. This allows one to continue the momentum found in the work that’s already been done.


Another aspect that contributes to a potentially unsuccessful outcome in counselling is effort. Therapy not only takes effort from your counsellor but also on your own end as well. The spectrum of effort from a client runs through the polarity of either being fully immersed in the work or being apathetic about it. For some, effort in the early stages is extremely difficult to conjure up, often due to the mental and emotional well-being of the client. Yet, most of the time we find ourselves waxing and waning between the two. When you feel as though your effort for counselling is fading it may be best to reflect on why.


Effort doesn’t have to be this big grandiose endeavour either, it can appear as answering questions honestly, showing up when you don’t want to be there, or being fully present when in the consulting office. Effort is easier to come by when one has a meaning to pursue their volitional act. It’s beneficial to appraise why you’re doing counselling and to continue to add to that why throughout the process.


By being transparent with your counsellor and providing the experience with adequate effort, you are more likely to be part of the 75%. Yet, one of the most difficult things is to put yourself out there again after having an impotent counselling experience. After ineffective therapy, you feel raw, cheated, and even a little betrayed. However, take accountability for what you can, and don’t let this setback lead you astray from the path you’ve already begun to walk on. The path is never easy to walk, obstacles come in the way in many forms and at times it can be an unsuccessful counselling experience. Still, all you can do is trudge forward and not let the failure define you.


Follow me on Instagram, LinkedIn, and visit my website for more info!

Thomas Goenczi Brainz Magazine

Thomas Goenczi, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Thomas Goenczi, is a veteran of the Royal Canadian Navy, serving for seven years. After leaving the military Thomas pursued his Master of Counselling (Psychology). He now is a clinical counsellor providing his service through his private practice – Well Then Therapy. Thomas focuses on helping his clients and readers uncovering their unconscious roots of their mental struggles and reinfusing there lives with meaning. Thomas has recently reconnected with the military community with the mission of fostering an acceptance towards mental health. He is currently contributor to the Naval Newspaper. Lastly, he has a keen interest in psychoanalytic work, working with one's will, and psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.

Reference:

 
 

This article is published in collaboration with Brainz Magazine’s network of global experts, carefully selected to share real, valuable insights.

Article Image

What Your Sexual Turn-Ons Reveal About You

After working in the field of human sexuality for over a decade, nothing shocks me anymore. I've had the unique privilege of holding space for thousands of clients as they revealed the details of their...

Article Image

3 Ways to Cancel the Chaos

You’ve built a thriving career and accomplished ambitious goals, but you feel exhausted and drained when you wake up in the morning. Does this sound familiar? Many visionary leaders and...

Article Image

Before You Decide to Become a Mom, Read This

Motherhood is beautiful, meaningful, and transformative. But it can also be overwhelming, unexpected, and isolating. As a clinician and a mother of two, I’ve seen firsthand how often women...

Article Image

What You Want Is Already There, So Take It

If there is one thing that is part of life, it is having to make decisions again and again. Be it at school, at work, at home, with family, with friends, while shopping, etc. What is the saying? It is like, not giving an answer...

Article Image

Why 68% of Divorces Are Preventable – The Hidden Cost Couples Don’t See Coming

Divorce often feels like the doorway to relief, clarity, or a long-awaited fresh start. But for many couples, the reality becomes far more complicated, emotionally, financially, and generationally.

Article Image

How to Channel Your Soul’s Wisdom for Global Impact in 5 Steps

Have you ever felt a gentle nudge inside, an inner spark whispering that you are here for more? What if that whisper is your soul’s invitation to remember your truth and transform your gifts into uplifting...

Pretty Privilege? The Hidden Truth About Attractiveness Bias in Hiring

Dealing with a Negative Family During the Holidays

Top 3 Things Entrepreneurs Should Be Envisioning for 2026 in Business and Caregiving Planning

Shaken Identity – What Happens When Work Becomes Who We Are

AI Won't Heal Loneliness – Why Technology Needs Human Connection to Work

When Robots Work, Who Pays? The Hidden Tax Crisis in the Age of AI

Who Are the Noah’s of Our Time? Finding Faith, Truth, and Moral Courage in a World on Fire

2026 Doesn’t Reward Hustle, It Rewards Alignment – Business Energetics in the Year of the Fire Horse

7 Ways to Navigate Christmas When Divorce Is Around the Corner in January

bottom of page