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How To Make Space For The New To Come In?

Written by: AnneMie Decatte, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


When you want to make changes to your life and attract new things to come into your world, quite often, your surroundings are clogged up with old energy, which prevents you from attracting the new, exciting things you really want to have in your life. If you think about it, when you buy a set of new clothes, it is a good idea to clear out your wardrobe first, donate what you no longer wear, and then give your new clothes a spot in your wardrobe.

This is exactly the same with your desire to attract new things into your life, such as a new relationship, a new job or business, a new place to live, new friends, etcetera.

I am sure that this all makes sense. However, I see so many people hold on to things that no longer serve them.

Yes, it is perhaps true that hanging on gives you a false sense of security. But, this is definitely not going to bring you closer to attracting what you want into your life. On the contrary, by holding on to this clingy energy, the new cannot make its way into your life.

Therefore, if you want to attract new things, it is crucial to ‘make space for the new to come in, no matter what it is you desire.

This decision to audit your life and make space for new opportunities is like hitting the reset button, so an exciting novel creation process can start unfolding.

Over the years, I have observed this in several different scenarios and I will share a few client stories with you here below:

One of my clients was looking for love online.

After an in-depth profile analysis for a few weeks, she met her match.

Overly excited, she organized a time to meet up with this perfect mystery man. Although the expectations where high, after the meeting, there was no real spark, and on top of that, he showed little interest in meeting again, although he did keep in touch and texted her so now and then. Months passed and texts were sent back and forth, giving her the impression that a second meeting could still be an option. When she finally requested the next get-together, he seemed busy and there was excuse after excuse why he could not make it…

Here is my take on this:

If people have the intention to be on a dating site, one would think that they actually want to meet someone. But not this man. He invented every excuse under the sun not to commit to a second meeting. Believe me, if someone really wants to see you, they will make time! They will make it happen!

She finally took the bull by the horns and made that awkward phone call asking where this ‘ relationship’ was going. And indeed, it was not going anywhere, as he was ‘very busy’ with his demanding career, however, he really wanted to keep in touch.

I told my client: the choice is yours, but if you are serious about meeting the love of your life, you will have to make space for this new man to come in. By keeping in contact through text and the occasional phone call, you keep the old and stagnant energy going and this way it is much harder for new energy to come in.

In the end, she decided to break all contact, and 6 weeks later, she met someone really cool at her local gym. They started hanging out together and were dating soon after. The vibes were high and their energy was aligned. They have been together ever since and are very happy.

Another client of mine was not happy at work.

He was underpaid and undervalued and he was being bullied and treated with disrespect. Although, he really liked the work he did.

I asked him question if the fulfillment he got out of his work outweighed the bullying of the people around him and he had to think for a moment…

Initially, this was the case, but rowing upstream had started to take its toll and he wondered why he had just acquiesced like that.

That was quite an answer!

He had obviously never thought about this.

I guess everyone can get caught up in the busyness of daily life and get comfortable in the discomfort of the comfort zone.

Surprisingly, life can shift in the blink of an eye once we become observers of our situation. When you take yourself out of all the drama and just see what is.

It was clear that he was not treated right and still, he stayed.

Together we made a plan to create some positive changes for him.

Only 3 weeks later, he resigned from his awful job and started a new one in a company that really appreciates his bubbly character, his novel ideas and his years of expertise.

He looks like a totally different person because he can finally be who he really is. By making that decision to make space so that new opportunities could come in, everything fell into place.

Yet another client of mine was in a long-term relationship. She was bitterly unhappy, as she had lost her identity and all belief in herself over the years.

She felt unseen, unheard and under-appreciated.

She told me that she had done everything possible to turn her relationship around, but nothing had worked as she felt that she was the only one wanting to make it better.

On top of that, some things had happened within the relationship that she could not put behind her.

She had gone to therapy, they had taken holidays, they had talked …but nothing had brought them closer together. Still, she stayed. I was wondering why?

So, I asked her: ‘If you are telling me that you are miserable and this has been going on for years and as you told me: there is very little hope for any improvement, what is it that is still serving you within this relationship?’ Many things can be bad, but as long as there is one little thing that still looks appealing, people will stay.

Then she said: ’I have never lived on my own. I am not sure how I would cope and how that would work?’

So the only reason why this gorgeous lady stayed in a soul-destructive relationship was that life on her own looked intimidating to her.

With her permission, we made a plan together for her to get that second chance.

She left her relationship and went to live on her own.

It turned out to be much more fun than she could have ever imagined. All of a sudden, she was free to read what she wanted, she could choose to watch the documentaries that interested her, she dressed the way she felt comfortable, and ate whatever and whenever she wanted.

She started her self-development journey, joined groups and associations where she met other women who were working on similar issues…and…she blossomed.

She became a new person, a woman that radiated confidence and certainty within herself – A woman that could lead herself!

A good year later, she met Rob, a really nice man who respects her and who she now spends her life with. They travel together and spend 6 months in Australia and 6 months in Dubai. She told me a few weeks ago: “I could have never imagined that I would be able to trust someone again and certainly not that I would have this kind of relationship.”

Yes, I am over the moon for all the people who were able to make that shift and turned their life around 180 degrees. It was by being willing to see their situation from a different angle and by making that decision that enough was enough. It was only by taking action that they created a new life experience for themselves that made them feel inspired and valued and all of this in a matter of weeks.

If these people could change their world around, so can you!

So, on a final note: remember that to attract NEW things into your life, you need to MAKE SPACE in your current realm for this NEW ENERGY to come in and of course, you also have to take positive, inspired action.

Once you do this, magic can start happening!

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AnneMie Decatte, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

AnneMie Decatte, is an advocate for Accountable ETHOS™ as this approach assisted her to live the epic life she lives today! Her mission is to help people make confident and accountable choices through Communication, Value Alignment and Emotional Mastery. She is the COE of Accountable Ethos and has been coaching and mentoring people internationally since 2006, and this in a personal and professional capacity. She claims: ‘When adopting Accountable Ethos, be ready to elevate as life will never be the same!!!



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