Preparing For Love During The Holidays
Written by: Daphney Poyser, Executive Contributor
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Are the holidays truly the best time to fall in love or are we simply getting swept up with the spirit and snow?
For those of us who have found someone special this year, and have taken the time to cultivate our new relationship, it can be both an exciting and thrilling idea to introduce our partner to our relatives. However, depending on how long you’ve been dating it may or may not be an appropriate time to add the pressures of meeting your folks to an already fragile relationship. So, how do you decide if it’s safe to bring your new love home for holiday dinner or if it’s better off keeping your relationship on the low? I have a few ideas: 1. You are actively planning to continue seeing this new person once the holiday season has ended.
a. Good indications for this milestone would be: Have you talked about making plans for Valentine’s Day? Your respective birthdays?
2. You have already introduced your new love interest to the most important people in your life.
a. The holidays are a great time to hard launch your relationship with others, but it shouldn’t be the first time your partner is meeting everyone you love. Out of respect to your person, try easing them into your bubble; that way when it comes time for the big events, the only person they’ll know and feel comfortable socializing with at the festivities won’t fall solely onto you.
3. You’ve had a deeper conversation about what type of relationship you’re interested in building together.
a. You may not be ready to ring the wedding bells just yet (or even), but it is important to know where you and your person stand, before all of your other loved ones try to do so for you.
Bringing someone new home for the first time is a risk in and of itself, regardless of how firmly you believe in your partnership. However, if the people you spend special occasions with are truly important to you, you owe it to yourself to at least try and form a bond between the most important people in your life.
Finding and nourishing love can take a lot of work, and it’s perfectly normal to feel a sense of anxiety when it comes to engaging in actions that could potentially have a negative outcome. However, you will never know what greatness lies ahead for you and your person if you aren’t willing to take the first step towards creating your own happiness. Plus it gives you a good reason to take home extra servings of your favorite holiday dessert.
Daphney Poyser, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Daphney Poyser is the founder and CEO of Fern Connections, a LGBTQIA+ Matchmaking and Coaching company. After noticing a lack of diversity within the world of same-sex specific dating services, Poyser sought out to create her own company founded on the principles of greater gender, sexual, and romantic inclusivity. Fern Connections was started in 2020 and now has headquarters in Texas and Georgia; the company services individuals nationwide within the United States.
