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It’s An Inside Job

Written by: Terrie Nathan, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


Happiness is not a destination, but a process.

It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.

Happiness at times can seem elusive, it’s easy to focus on what’s wrong vs what’s strong. But real happiness is an inside job. Our happiness/mental wealth will be determined by what we put into it.

However, first, we have to remember everything starts from the inside out. How are we thinking? Are you hoping you can just follow the pack and that will make you happy? Are you expecting others to make you happy? Are you waiting to be happy until you get that job or become successful?

It’s important to understand that life happens, setbacks don’t equal failure. You are allowed to set boundaries. It’s ok to rest. Not everything you think is true. You are responsible for your happiness. It is a choice that you alone make.

Being happy doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant issues or situations. It just means that you approach unpleasantness more positively, which requires perspective.

I get that this can be tough some days, But that’s where you come in. The choice to have a positive mindset and be happy lies within YOU,…ah an “Inside Job”…huh who knew?

So many times we miss happiness because we make bad trade-offs or we think it’s out there somewhere…so we try to pursue happiness…but what we need to discover is the fact that happiness/positivity is not a place that you go or a status that you attain, rather it’s an inside job a mindset and is always there if you pay attention to inside voice.

The power of positive & being happy… is a choice YOU get to make every day. It’s not something someone does FOR YOU, but rather something YOU DO FOR YOU!

Happy people live with a purpose and they take action.

So what can I do?

  • Put yourself on a diet… mental diet that is…spend less time listening to the news/social media, negative people, or whatever might be dragging you down. We all have inner promptings (gut instincts) that give us signs. We just have to be willing to listen to our gut instincts and keep ourselves on the positive path.

  • Be mindful of whom you are spending time with. Your friends matter.

  • Be open to learning new things.

  • Practice compassion.

  • Practice gratitude.

  • Be happy for others.

  • Practice patience and humility.

  • Again stay away or indulge less in negative media (this one is top of my list)

  • Don’t hold grudges.

  • Don’t hold back sharing your positive energy.

  • Indulge in small pleasures (drinking your coffee, taking a walk, petting an animal, just relaxing).

Often we feel like we aren’t making progress and that we are always in the downward spiral of our inner self, but just like with anything else in life, you must take action.

If you want to create the upward trends in your life you can, with the proper input and action.

Pay attention to what you are saying to yourself. If you want to feel good every morning start with some positive words of encouragement for yourself…” like” you first each morning!

We have over 80,000 thoughts every day and most are a waste of our attention. Learn to let go of what doesn’t serve you. Learn to hang onto the thoughts that provide you with that uplifting energy.

There are no quick fixes to happiness, no losing 10 pounds in 3 days or making money overnight fixes. It’s all a matter of the daily choices you make and the daily actions you take. So be mindful and pay attention to what you are feeding your mind, and spirit to help lessen the number of ups and downs, remember it’s an inside job that only you can work on.

Keep in mind that at the end of the day thoughts aren’t facts.

You can choose what you let in and stay in.

The relationship you have with yourself is the most important human relationship you’ll ever have.

Love you from the inside out!


Terrie Nathan

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Terrie Nathan, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Terrie Nathan is an International Best-selling Author, Coach, Speaker and CEO/Founder of Strong Girl Enterprises. She coaches clients to improve their lives, relationships, and ability to perform in business by setting & achieving goals and building positive routines. She also coaches youth to build their confidence by teaching them strategies on positive self-talk, self-worth and body image.

Her practice is grounded in Positive Psychology, a research-based branch of psychology that studies what really causes people to thrive and flourish in their lives and work, and how we can apply those findings in practical and positive ways.

Terrie has now made it her life's mission to coach these transformational strategies of empowerment by partnering with clients and organizations worldwide.



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