Written by: Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor
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Emotions are toxic. They cause you to act without thinking. Whether it’s out of pride, fear, or excitement, you have likely experienced situations where you have rushed into things. Where you have ignored that quiet voice inside yourself that’s telling you to slow down or reconsider, only to regret it in the future.
It was a slap witnessed around the world. A slap that knocked a beloved public figure off of his pedestal as a role model for emotional intelligence. In March of 2022, The Motion Picture Academy Awards were broadcast on National Television. As comedian Chris Rock took the stage to present the award for best documentary, he started his monologue with some jokes, as comedians often do. One of his jokes was aimed at Jada Pinkett Smith, wife of actor Will Smith. Now as uncomfortable as the joke was, there was some nervous laughter in the audience. But Jada Pinkett Smith did not find it funny and could be seen rolling her eyes. At one point her husband, Will Smith walked up to the stage, approached Chris Rock and slapped him in the face.
Now Will Smith and Jada Pinkett-Smith, as a couple have built their brand around personal development and emotional intelligence. Will wrote about his journey and his struggles in his best-selling autobiography titled “Will”. His reaction and actions were not in line with his brand or his messaging. It was painfully obvious to all who witnessed this incident that his feelings and emotions took control of his actions. Those actions will have some repercussions that will surely have an effect on his career.
But what happened that night, at the Academy Awards, was a stark example of how your feelings and emotions can sabotage your success. Your feelings are rarely aligned with what's best for you and when you are not in control of your feelings and emotions, you will react in ways that aren’t aligned with your vision, your goals, and your values.
Here are 6 things you can do to develop the mental and emotional energy needed to take action based on your values and priorities and gain control of your emotions.
1. Routines ‒ Establish a morning routine. Be the boss of your mornings. A morning routine wipes out 20% of stress and brings positivity and preparedness for the day.
2. Resets ‒ when you reset, everything shifts. Establish a strategic reset every 50 minutes. Move, drink water, stretch, or sit quietly for 3-5 minutes to reset your body & brain.
3. Re-Charge – Eat to fuel and recover. Have a performance diet. A diet that is built for the performance needed during the day.
4. Re-Activate – Work out at least 5x per week. Moving activates energy.
5. Rest your brain – How you treat other people comes from your brain. Rest your brain. Nourish your brain with supplements. Meditate for your brain.
6. Recovery – Develop a sleep routine ‒ get 7-8 hours of sleep to optimize your performance.
No food 3 hours before bed
Stop working 2 hours before bed
No screens 1 hour before bed
When you can win the battle with your feelings, you can take true ownership of your life. And when you move through life with clarity of thought and purpose, nothing can stop you.
Eva Medilek, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine Eva Medilek is a Certified High-Performance Coach, International Speaker, Author and Inclusivity Coach. She has coached both men and women in the areas of personal development, leadership and mastering habits for success in their personal and professional lives. She specializes in helping busy professionals have more money, time, and success without sacrificing health, well-being and relationships in the process. She uses her personal experiences along with her leadership, relationship and high-performance training to teach you how to have it all without sacrificing it all.