How To Conquer The Inner Critic And Strengthen Your Self-Esteem
- Oct 17, 2023
- 2 min read
Written by: Maria Rosa De Zilva, Executive Contributor
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We have been hard on ourselves by embracing inner critic. Inner criticism comes from negative experiences from our childhood, family members, friends, and colleagues because our mind is embracing unhealthy beliefs that are holding us back from becoming the best version of ourselves.
Fortunately, that inner critic, those thoughts are false expectations in your mind. You have the power to retrain your unconscious mind by implementing new habits that will help you overcome these limiting beliefs.
Did you know that positive self-talk will help you to change the negative perspective about yourself, boost your mood, motivation, and self-esteem, and shift your focus on what is more important for you?
I will show three ways to accelerate this process and create new empowering thoughts and habits.
Self-awareness
Self-awareness is a great practice that will help you provide insights into the unhealthy thoughts and beliefs that you are embracing.
Write a list of 5 or 10 statements that represent those thoughts that you are more focused on and make you feel discontent about yourself. Examples:
I gave up. It is not easy to get a higher role.
I am not happy about myself.
I cannot succeed.
I am not clever enough for this project.
Focus
The focus will help you be committed to this new empowering belief. You will embrace, think, and speak aloud regularly; your focus will shift to improving your self-esteem.
Take a moment to answer these questions and then reframe the negative statements with supportive ones.
Are these beliefs helping you physically and mentally?
What are the beliefs that will empower you to love and value yourself?
Reframe
I am not good enough.
I feel confident. I am learning powerful ways to improve my presentation skills. I am so excited for this opportunity.
Gratitude
Gratitude is an effective way to help you to be more present for the things that matter to you and embrace positive emotions in your life.
Every morning, take the time to be grateful for the things you have. Your family, friends, this new day, new opportunities, etc, speak them aloud or write them down and envision those special memories that bring you joy and motivation.
Do not waste your valuable time with unsupportive thoughts, people, or situations that do not help you. You deserve better. You will realize that being present and embracing positive self-talk brings you joy and improves your self-esteem tremendously.
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Maria Rosa De Zilva, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Maria is an internationally accredited Mindset Coach, NLP Practitioner, trainer, and Motivational Speaker. Who guides and empowers women to reclaim their self-worth, conquer their limiting beliefs, and embrace authenticity, self-confidence, and full potential.
Maria struggles with introversion and dyslexia. Still, her unwavering self-confidence helped her to overcome their limiting beliefs, become the best version of herself, embrace a great vision, and change people's lives.
Her philosophy is reflected in this Chinese adage which emphasizes action and self-confidence for success: “Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid only standing still.”
