Written by: Jill Hollander, Executive Contributor
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As the holiday season is approaching there can be so much that is coming up for each of us. I want to share with you a few tips on how to create a resilient response when things come up throughout this season. In some way shape or form, we are all going through a period of change whether it is personally, interpersonally and/or collectively. While we are in a process of shifting, adjustments need to be made and this may include making adjustments to how you navigate the Holidays.
You may have had Holiday plans that got derailed due to all that is happening, this may be your first larger gathering in awhile, it may be that you feel the societal pull to act Jolly when that is not how you are actually feeling. Whatever you are experiencing this season, I want to let you know that you are not alone, and I want to share two tips to help you to begin to create a resilient response.
Tip number one is to have a plan, to plan for what may be challenging. Plan for what may be difficult for you. It is not too late to make a plan, even if you have not thought of one yet – as this type of plan is intended to be flexible and very simple. The idea may be to think about what will be your boundaries regarding being in a larger group setting. Begin to ask yourself: what are some things that I don’t want to talk about? What might you say in response? How do I want to navigate being in a larger group for the first time in a while? It may be that you don’t want to stay the whole time. You can set things up that may make you feel that you are ready and prepared to address challenges as they arise. If you are finding the Holidays difficult overall you can plan a nourishing and nurturing self-care experience. Do whatever feels right and safe for you and that can look different for each of us. Create a plan that feels most comforting and compassionate for you. What does that plan look like for you?
Tip number two is to create a way to feel centered and grounded during a time when there is a lot of energy and emotions around us and within us. Just feel into what you need. There are different ways that we can find a way to feel centered, grounded, and to connect within. Some ways to help you to feel centered are: deep breathing, meditation, movement, and music. Just to name a few. Do whatever works best for you. You can begin to choose your option by asking yourself: how can I center myself if I feel out of alignment anytime throughout the Holidays? Reminder, even if you are at a larger gathering, you can always go to the bathroom and take a few deep breaths to refocus, recenter and connect with your guidance from within.
Remember you are strong, you are brave, you are courageous, you are resilient! You’ve got this!
Jill Hollander, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine
Certified Health & Life Coach Jill Hollander helps people to FIND THEIR YES! even IN A SEA OF NOs. Through individual, group coaching, workshops, and motivational speaking, she empowers, motivates, and inspires her clients and audiences to find opportunities in their obstacles. She offers a variety of tools and strategies that foster mindset shifts, create self-advocacy, and build resiliency. Jill created her YES! Filled Life amongst extreme medical diagnoses, surgeries, and life events. Her mission is now to help others do the same. Jill has been helping others communicate and be their own advocates for 10 years after earning her Master’s Degree in Speech-Language Pathology. Jill has been featured in Entrepreneur, American Heart Association, The Associated Press, U.S. News & World Report, and more. She is a Survivor Ambassador for The American Heart Association. Jill received the Gift of Life Pillar of Strength Award at the national Marrow Match Gala.