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Confidence Killers ‒ The Sneaky Habits Holding You Back And How To Overcome Them

Written by: Klaude Furlong, Guest Writer

 

You're standing in front of the mirror, getting ready for your big presentation. You've rehearsed your speech, you've done your research, and you know your topic inside and out. But as you take one last look at yourself, those confidence killers start to creep in. "Do I look professional enough?" "Will people take me seriously?" "What if I forget my lines?"


I’m sure you’ve been there. We all have at some point in time. That little voice in your head that tells you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough. It's the voice of your inner critic, and it's one of the biggest confidence killers out there. I call it the “chattering monkeys” and within literal seconds, they can completely destroy your self-confidence with their toxic gibberish on auto-replay.

Negative self-talk is just one of the many habits and mindsets that can undermine your self-confidence. Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, comparisonitis – all of these can chip away at your belief in yourself and your abilities.


But the good news is, these confidence killers are not insurmountable. With some self-awareness and a few practical strategies, you can learn to identify and address these habits and create a more confident, positive mindset.


So, let's dive in and explore some of the most common confidence killers, and how to overcome them.


Negative self-talk

As I've already mentioned, negative self-talk is one of the biggest confidence killers out there. It's that little voice inside your mind that keeps telling you that you're not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough. And it can be incredibly powerful and difficult to stop.


The first step in overcoming negative self-talk is to become aware of it. Pay attention to the thoughts that run through your head when you're feeling insecure or unsure of yourself. Are they helpful or harmful? Would you say those things to a friend or loved one? Probably not.


Once you've identified your negative self-talk, it's time to challenge it. Ask yourself, "Is this thought true?" "What evidence do I have to support it?" "What evidence do I have to refute it?" By challenging your negative self-talk, you can start to reframe those thoughts and create a more positive, self-affirming mindset.


Perfectionism

Perfectionism is another confidence killer that can be hard to overcome. It's the belief that everything has to be perfect, and anything less than perfect is a failure. But the truth is, perfectionism is not only unrealistic, it's also unproductive.

To overcome perfectionism, it's important to set realistic goals and expectations for yourself. Focus on progress, not perfection. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. And remember that making mistakes is a natural part of the learning process. See everything as an experiment, not a result. This way, the result won’t seem to matter as much as the actual experience you’re having.

One of my favorite entrepreneurs and content creators of all time, Gary Vaynerchuck, AKA @Garyvee, always says “done is better than perfect”. There is a lot of depth in that statement. It doesn’t mean that you don’t want things to be done as best as they can be, it’s about not being paralyzed by your perfectionism and getting things moving forward. You can always grow your wings on the way down as you take that leap of faith. Remember also that life is a dynamic experience, ever evolving, ever changing and it’s more valuable for you to absorb the experience than to try and control its outcome.

Imposter syndrome

Imposter syndrome is the belief that you're a fraud, that you don't deserve your success, and that at any moment, you'll be exposed as a fraud. It's a common confidence killer, particularly among high achievers.

To overcome imposter syndrome, it's important to recognize that everyone experiences self-doubt from time to time. You're not alone. It's also important to acknowledge your accomplishments and give yourself credit for your hard work and achievements. And remember, no one knows everything. It's okay to ask for help or admit when you don't know something.


Comparisonitis

Comparisonitis is the habit of constantly comparing yourself to others, usually unfavorably. It's a confidence killer because it can make you feel inadequate and inferior to those around you.

To overcome comparisonitis, it's important to focus on your own journey, not someone else's. Set your own goals and measure your progress against yourself, not others. And remember that everyone has their own unique strengths and weaknesses. Instead of comparing yourself to others, celebrate your own strengths and work on improving your life on your own terms.

Confidence killers can be sneaky, and they can hold you back from achieving your full potential. But with some self-awareness and practical strategies, you can overcome them and create a more positive, self-affirming mindset.

Remember, negative self-talk, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and comparisonitis are just a few of the many confidence killers out there. But by identifying these habits and mindsets and taking steps to address them, you can start to build a stronger, more resilient sense of self-confidence.

So, take some time to reflect on how you've been dealing with your confidence killers. Are there any patterns or habits that are holding you back? What steps can you take to overcome them?

And if you want to learn more about building self-confidence, there are plenty of resources out there to help you on your journey. Whether it's self-help books, therapy, podcasts or online courses, there are many ways to gain the tools and support you need to become the confident, self-assured person you were meant to be.

So, go out there and tackle your confidence killers head-on. You've got this!


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Klaude Furlong, Brainz Magazine Guest Writer

Klaude Furlong is a self-help author with a unique perspective on life that inspires and motivates her readers to create their own authentic path. Through her insightful and grounded approach, Klaude has become a trusted voice in personal development, with two powerful books currently in the works, "Powerless to Powerful" and "Monetize Your Inner Gold", teaching readers to tap into their inner strength and unlock their full potential.


With unwavering dedication to helping others live their best lives, Klaude's words will continue to resonate with readers long after they’ve finished reading her books.

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