Awaken Your Awareness with 2 Simple Questions

Written by: Kylie Mort, Executive Contributor

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Perchance I received a surreal opportunity in February of 2020. Perchance, just when I needed to “find the time” to work on the business instead of working in the business that demand was satisfied, and in the most extraordinarily unthinkable way. It was Marylin Monroe who said, “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” And so it would be, just one short month later, my world would never be the same again.


“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it.” – Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love.

Get on a plane.

It was my publisher, and she had arranged for me to spend the week at a women’s only retreat, all expenses paid on my arrival in Fiji. I called my husband and let him know of the fantastical idea and the fact I had turned it down. He asked why, and I realized I was using every excuse I could to justify my inaction, fear, and imposter syndrome. So, in less than 24 hours, I was on a plane. Little did I know just how auspicious this remarkable turn of events would become.

I now sheepishly admit I had no idea who Elizabeth Gilbert was at the time but by the hushed tones and whispered reverence, I realized she must be more than just the writer booked for the keynote. It’s a funny thing that happens when you put over one hundred women on a remote tropical island for a week and give every one of them permission to be their best selves. It is even more powerful when you do this with a featured workshop by one of the most unassuming, kindly authors on the planet. To say it was life-changing would sound trite, yet how to explain the impact?

I felt a veil had been lifted from my eyes, and I was suddenly privy to the stark reality I had confused with purpose. The breakthrough I needed was so unpretentious, yet perhaps only comprehensible to my work-harried mind due to the serenity surrounding it.

Elizabeth Gilbert telling me I only have room in my mind and heart for five priorities and that I should simply write them down and focus on them. So, I did. I stared with dismay at the list of the five most neglected, overlooked, and postponed elements of my life, that just so happened to be the five most critically important parts to my soul, and wondered how I could possibly have blundered so blindly to this point.

The companies, the staff, the visions to grow and leverage, and mission statements work harder at detailed objectives. All the while, my actual real tangible life put on hold, something that I would get around to someday, when I could find time away from the office. The vision was honorable; the mission was strategic and practical… yet all the while, the focus was wrong.

Life is not lived to strive stoically every day, feeling unsatisfied at day’s end that you could have helped just one more person if you’d just given more of yourself. Life is about feeling gratified each day, knowing that you are giving all you can to be your best self and uplift and inspire the world with your example.

But how to find the time for this epiphany? How to unplug oneself from the colossal grinding machine without the cogs spinning wildly out of control and the entire built-purpose screeching and stalling with outrage? In the lack of the unique serendipity provided by uncontrollable outside forces, one must find the inner resolve to take the wheel and navigate a new path.

“Lydia, my love, ring the bell. I must speak to Hill this moment.” Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice

The world has come such a long way since servants and butlers waited dutifully at a whim. From the bell pull, to the electronic bell and the intercom, to the countless internet-based options of our era, getting the attention of those who serve your needs continues to develop at a rapid pace.

Yet ‘no man is an island,’ and it is not just the intrusive alerts of unwanted attention that we respond to. There are compulsive addictions linked to social media notifications among many in the screen-obsessed world we now populate, and it begs the question, when is being available too available? Where do we draw the line?

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