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Are You Aware When You Co-Mingle Energy?

Written by: Shannon McLaren, Executive Contributor

Executive Contributors at Brainz Magazine are handpicked and invited to contribute because of their knowledge and valuable insight within their area of expertise.


There's an old interview question commonly asked; "Are you a leader or a follower?"

How many of you thought one was a better skill than the other? I certainly did. If I answered the question, I would always tell you, “I am a leader. No doubt, a leader.”

Yet, I unknowingly have co-mingled my energy by taking the path of least resistance or doing what is easy. In my early 20’s and well into my 40’s, I took jobs where I supported others’ dreams. Every day I woke with a passion for life and “gifted” that powerful energy to their career goals. For example, I am the visionary architect behind Tiffany Haddish’s explosive career success and velocity not seen in decades in Hollywood. I plotted and planned every day for her success; whether she was focused on it or not, I was for 13 years. And, what a delight it was ~ I held the vision of her extraordinary talent unwaveringly. In the end, I did not benefit monetarily from my investment. It was the MOST VALUABLE life lesson my Soul was teaching me about how I was unknowingly co-mingling energy, and it was WORTH IT!

Who’s manifestation river am I in?

I can still feel that burst of energy I felt when I awoke each day during that time in my life! I can hear people reflecting on me, amazed at what I was doing for Actors before they broke big. And, of course, there was jealousy from other Actors and competitors who wanted to claim the fame of the opportunities I had developed.

Back then, I didn’t understand the depth of what my “energy” was creating or how to apply it consciously. I was functioning based on the simpleton premise that we grew up, moved out of our parent’s home, found a partner, and got jobs working to support ourselves. My belief about life was limited and ignorant. I didn’t know about my systemic family history or how my human energy system works to guide maturation, nor did I understand what it meant to be autonomous. This trifecta is foundational in truly knowing and understanding one’s Self.

The definition of autonomy is independence in one’s thoughts and actions. Autonomy is the right or condition of self-government. The capacity of a system to make a decision about its actions without the involvement of another system or operator.

To be Autonomous or Self-Realized is one of the most credible things we can do to understand ourselves, our extended families, and our communities. Self-Realization begins within, noticing your own human energy system’s (HES) indicators that communicate with the Self in every moment. Sensory perception and intuition are the skills needed to understand your HES. They are innate and forgotten as we depend more and more on tools outside of the Self; like other people, clocks, books, computers. Still, these skills can be easily re-learned.

We don’t know what we don’t know.

The concept of independent thought never occurred to me. How can we make decisions on our own if we don’t understand the effects of our Familial history and the “beliefs” handed down to us through generations? Who knows, you might discover that some of your ideas or patterns of behaviour came from people you didn’t even know. Do you want to be clear about what you are doing and why? Can you answer a question for yourself, is this behavior or thought mine or co-mingled from my family? Naming what “is” and your systemic family values and behaviors as they are, honors the wireless threads of energy that connect your lineage to you—in turn, allowing one to separate and account for what is yours and theirs. Please keep what you like, and return the rest to its bringer or to the Earth as compost.

The unexamined life is not worth living” quote by Socrates.

When something feels “off,” how many of us investigate, explore and resource what we think or experience? What do we believe and why? Have you ever noticed the feeling in your body in response to any subject before calling a friend or using a google search? Becoming consciously aware requires you to “Learn the Self” and answer the question:

Am I manifesting for myself or collective energy?

Currently, society is experiencing a run-away large herd mentality around vaccine programs. It feels like two primary groups yet, there are many different views about it. I use this as an example because the statement alone will incite most people’s feelings or thoughts regarding the topic.

Question; “Can you support another person’s opinion when it differs from yours, or do you become physically tense or impassioned when a topic comes up you disagree with?” An honest answer tells you whether you are manifesting for the Self or connected to the collective energy.

How does that co-mingling happen?

Generally speaking, if your answer is yes, you are probably attached energetically and/or emotionally to some collective aspect; therefore, energies have co-mingled. Here are some warning signs you are connecting to someone else’s energy stream vs. your own:

• Focusing on what others do or are doing(or not doing).

• Running stories (either positive or negative) in your mind over and over. Expectations of another person, place, or thing.

• Not feeling “like yourself” or behaving out of character.

• Frustration or upsetness often leads to digestive issues. Or digestion issues.

• Sudden switch of mood like; uncontrollable laughter or sudden rage.

Do you remember walking into a room or an event and immediately feeling something in the space? The experience could be anything from sudden silence, excitement to stuffy tension.

What was the feeling for you?

Exactly, and you just walked right into it: Co-mingling with others’ energy doesn’t have to be wrong either. How about surrounding yourself with 5 of the most influential people you know? I would love to seep in their energy for as long as I can! What do you want to create? Does the current frequency serve you, or can you leave the space exactly how you entered it? Generally speaking, we are unaware of co-mingling energy so, the answer might be no.

We become the thing we surround ourselves with.

*Up to 60% of the human adult body is water. According to H.H. Mitchell, Journal of Biological Chemistry 158, the brain and heart are composed of 73% water, and the lungs are about 83% water.

Think about how water behaves; it is self-leveling. You may think about it this way; we are swimming in a pool every day, and the closer we come to another person, we merge with the other’s water aspects.

Don’t let the mist and water of someone else’s channel take you away.

Discovering your beliefs, behaviors, and expression is key to re-orienting yourself as the Leader of our life and creations, thereby placing you directly on our souls’ path. The ability to acknowledge the difference between where your energy begins and ends within the collective energy field is a powerful tool and perhaps the most challenging feat of human hood.

The consciousness of the Leader both influences and is influenced by the collective consciousness.

Approach every moment as a learning opportunity for your life and be responsible for how you feel and think. In that way, the student continuously evolves, consciously aware of what is theirs and another’s.

Be the Leader you dream of; when you do, magic will happen!

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Shannon McLaren, Executive Contributor Brainz Magazine

Shannon McLaren is The Mystic Agent, a natural-born Seer, Systemic Constellation Facilitator, Integrative Craniosacral Therapist, Board Certified Polarity Practitioner(BCPP), and Educator(RPE) with IPSB @ Life Energy Institute.

This former Playboy model and stockbroker is willing to go ANYWHERE the client needs to in order to get the thing they are looking for in their lives! She offers original self-realization experiences and content, such as The Soul Game, as well as services, and guidance to cultivate simplicity in being. She’s no one’s guru. Shannon’s philosophy is a selfish one on purpose. “Do you,” she says. “Take action to create fluidity. Remain courageous and patient during the waves and disruptions, and then your authentic contribution to the world will emerge from you with ease and grace. Your inspirations will resonate with the right people and the world around you will bend to you.

Everyone can be a Mystic Agent, an Agent of Action guided by their Soul.



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